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PositiveAttitude (original poster member #40624) posted at 11:17 PM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
Limbo sucks, and I feel like it will never end. I really don't want my marriage to end in divorce. I want us to heal ourselves, but my husband is so wrapped around his guilt and his addiction to her.
I need to find my way out of limbo for myself and my girls, but I don't even know where to start.
Did anyone else suffer through this limbo stage? He's feeling too sorry for himself to be of any use to me, and I just want to start moving past the pain.
BW - 44 - SAHM
WH - 45 - 3 year LTA
Blended family - 2 school aged "ours" children left at home.
DDay (which one?) all in 2013
Reconciling - as best we can
mom of 2 ( member #11214) posted at 12:10 AM on Sunday, September 15th, 2013
Me! I was in limbo for 18 EXCRUCIATING months. It was pure hell. ANY decision is better than no decision at all. I can't tell you what is right for you but I can tell you I agree that limbo sucks. 
Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.
Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 12:55 AM on Sunday, September 15th, 2013
We have a thread in our I Can Relate forum for BS's in Limbo:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=415668
It doesn't move as quickly as others but you can get support from members who are in a similar situation, or at least read about others who have been in your shoes. Somehow the "company" makes the limbo a bit more bearable.
As far as getting out - it may feel daunting to think about uprooting overnight - or even in a month. The best advice I've been given is to take very small steps towards your ultimate goal. Whether that means saving money somewhere protected, getting in touch with a lawyer for advice, or just re-learning how to take care of yourself, every little thing can add up to a healthier life after time.
Sending big hugs.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
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