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dindy (original poster member #38424) posted at 8:21 AM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
This is something that keeps bothering me.
Ex said that he and OW never slept together but obviously I don't believe anything he says.
I think that now I'm starting to find my feet after stopping taking AD's this is something that would really turn mine, and my children's lives upside down again.
I hope I'm just paranoid and nothing else.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 2:00 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
(((dindy)))
Does she have fb? If so, you could look at her page to see if there is anything that indicates she is pregnant.
Dreamland ( member #40488) posted at 2:36 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
Sending Hugsss
Oh your post hit a chord with me. I am still so paranoid. He told me they only had unprotected sex once.. I believed him but had a gut feeling something else was wrong. Never got the real story on how many times total they had sex. So I hear she's been sick after DDay from a coworker of hers.. Well I am serveral months out and am having nightmares of her being with a blond baby. She's asian and my H super blond.. And these are reoccurring dreams.. We talk about my nightmares in MC.. 6 months pass and I start a fact finding and question and answer session. I wanted my H to find out if she was pregnant. We are fighting and he burst out she can't be because we bought plan B the morning after. First I was in shock he knew about plan B. and the more TT but I died even more that day. I asked another coworker of OW used to work with me she says the OW was not pregnant. But I thought she was miy friend and have asked for more info about OW and she doesn't answer. So now I am super scared that my aquaintence lied to me. OW has accused me of assaulting her. All I did was yell at her the truth about her sorid past in front of coworkers- hers and mine. So yes I am super super paranoid. My WH doesn't help much since he doesn't want to talk about it.. He says it reminds him how stupid and how much pain he has caused me. I had a terrible nightmare about a month ago regarding this topic. Still don't know what to do?? OW isn't anywhere to be found. I only saw her once when I dropped off H at work and she had a big shawl around her easy to cover up belly but rationally i sure she wasnt ...So I feel for you.
Me-BS 50 Him-WH 47, DD17
Together since 1993, Married 19 yrs
DDay 3/12,4/12,7/12 EA-PA OW - 25 single husband chasing bastard whore
womaninflux ( member #39667) posted at 2:42 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
I would file for child support pre-emptively if this is what you are concerned about. If he's already your ex, there isn't any other reason to worry. I mean, yes, it's something to be hurt by but if he's your ex, all other ties have been severed except for co-parenting.
BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"
Skye ( member #325) posted at 2:45 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
I always wondered if 18 years after I knew of the affair ending there would be a knock on the door, "Hey, I'm looking for my dad." Have a few years to go!
The poor little girl he had an affair with already couldn't get child support from the first daddy, so my guess is she wasn't smart enough to try if it happened again. Child support was never my issue with it. I also was lucky enough to have adult children whose world wouldn't have been turned upside down.
Tired05 ( member #39609) posted at 7:03 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
I had that gut feeling on dday...BEFORE he even fessed up to actually having sex...so when I was told she was 6wks I wasn't even surprized.
I have no advice for you, but maybe some snooping may be in order? Does she have a Fb? Take a gander at hers and some of her family members. She may not post anything about it...but her mom/sisters may post something.
[This message edited by Tired05 at 1:03 PM, September 19th (Thursday)]
Together 6 yrs. M 4 yrs. DD born 3/1/2013.
Me: BS -- Him: 1 EA/PA (6mos), PA (MW), and 6 ONS...Been at it for almost 5 yrs. *Still slave to TT* 1st DDay- 11/24/2012,
.....OC due in August.....
dindy (original poster member #38424) posted at 7:22 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2013
I can't find her on fb. She used to be on it but since I messaged her GF to tell her about the A I have either been blocked by them or they have left it.
If I look for her on other social media sites she is nowhere to be found.
When I google her name it just comes up on infidelity.org and liarscheatersrus.com, as does my ex's name! :) :) (I wonder who did that?! :))
I've had this gut feeling for a while now. Though it might just be that I'm starting to find my feet and plan for mine and my kids future.
I guess I'm afraid to trust in the universe again and not worry that if I feel happy something awful is going to happen.
As for child support ex pays a little over what he legally is obliged to. We do not have this in any legal writing. But maybe I should do some more snooping and if the worst does happen with OW I can contact child support before the OC is born.
I hope it's just paranoia.
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