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I met my husband on OKCupid in 2011 - we got married six months ago on March 20th.

We're actually more happy right now than we were even on our wedding day.

I'm aware that our story isn't the norm, though, so proceed with caution.

I do agree that OKC is better than the others out there. I couldn't STAND POF when I was on that - ugh.

Thought this was funny-esp the male and female meaning for "friendship first"

WOMEN

40-ish......................49

Adventurer.............. Has had more partners than you ever will

Athletic................... Flat-chested

Average looking...... Yeah, right

Good looking............Average

Educated.................College dropout

Emotionally Secure...Thanks to Zoloff

Flirt...........................Bring your penicillin

Free spirit................ Substance user

Friendship first......... Trying to live down reputation as slut

Fun......................... Annoying

Gentle..................... Comatose

Good Listener...........Borderline Autistic

New-Age.................. All body hair, all the time

Open-minded............Desperate

Outgoing.................. Loud

Passionate............... Needy

Poetic........................Depressive Schizophrenic

Professional.............. Witch

Reubenesque............Morbidly obese

Romantic.................. Looks better by candle light

Wants Soulmate........One step away from stalking

Young at heart.......... Toothless crone

MEN

40-ish....................... 52 and looking for 25-yr-old

Athletic......................Watches ESPN

Average looking.........Bald but has hairy neck

Educated...................Smarter than you

Free Spirit..................Would sleep with you and your sister

Friendship first............As long as friendship involves nudity

Fun........................... Good with a remote and a six pack

Good looking............. Arrogant

Honest.......................Pathological Liar

Huggable.................. Overweight, more body hair than a bear

Likes to cuddle...........Insecure, overly dependent

Mature.......................Until you get to know him

Open-minded.............Wants to sleep with your mom too

My fiancee and I met on POF we will be celebrating 4 ys together on the 29th of this month and will be getting married on the 1st of November. So yea I think those sites absolutely work. But you do have to give it time. You will meet plenty of people you do not romantically click with but you might make a new friend out of that. My fiancee and I would have never met had it not been for that site. I am so glad I gave it a chance. Just make sure to tread cautiously and guard your heart. Good luck on your journey.

Online Dating? Oh, hell to the yeah! OLD is a great way to expand your dating pool.

Went on OKCupid a year after divorce was final and I'm now married to the wonderful man that I met there. Sure, you have to meet a few loony birds and go through the uncomfortable process of telling them you're not interested in pursuing a relationship, (ex.: comb over guy who started to plan our Christmas vacation on first date), but it's totally worth it in the end. Good luck!

I am currently dating a guy I met on Match and he is a fantastic man and we are falling for each other big time! Funny thing is, his marriage ended bc his ex was unfaithful too so it helps to have that in common.

There are some weirdos out there for sure, but at least you know some of the people on these sites are looking for a relationship. Truth is, is there are weirdos everywhere.

I did Match and found a nice woman I dated for about 6 months. I ended it about a month ago. Overall, I found the OLD experience pretty good, I didn't have any creepellas. Not sure if I'll eventually go back on Match or POF to change it up a bit. I like the concept of OLD, a little on the shy side and it allows me to break the ice with an email as opposed to walking up to a woman I'm attracted to and breaking the ice that way (.....and finding out she's not available, lol).

Thanks to OLD, I now have a wonderful DIL and two of the most beautiful GD ever born!

I have been dating my SO for 6 months now and he was my ONLY date from ChristianMingle.com.

I weeded out all the winkers, emails from men way over my age range or not even in my area and profiles that just did nothing for me.

He is a technical writer and he hooked me with his perfect grammar, spelling, etc. We had both been separated the same amount of time and both were divorced within 2 months of each other.

We have children the same age.

We never would have met if it wasn't for that site. We live 45 mins apart, opposite sides of the city.

Grow a thick skin, be VERY picky and just be careful and listen to your gut. It could be a great experience!

P.S. I have 2 friends that met and married from Match and eHarmony.

Ironically I met my STBXWW over ten years ago on Jdate. (Nice job, Jdate!)

But I am still a big proponent of OLD. Before I met my WW, I spent a couple of years doing OLD after I'd gotten out of a five-year relationship. Went on around fifty dates!

Most were duds in one way or another, but I did meet many vey nice, normal people, one of which turned into a true relationship for a year.

Just be careful, wade through the weirdos, and have fun.

Oh, and my best piece of advice: for a first date, make it coffee or a drink. No dinners, no activities. (IMO). Despite you having "bonded" over the phone, email, and pix, the SECOND you meet in person all that goes out the window and it you're starting at square one. Don't build it up too much before you meet.

Good comments. Very interesting. I've been looking into doing this more - SOOO tired of the bar scene and dating friends of friends isn't an option (I did that before, we broke up and it made our friends feel awkward).

The only thing is you still have to sort through a lot of people to find what you really like. Another job I don't have time for! :)

I have never, ever in my life tried OLD so I gave it a shot last weekend. What did I do wrong? Three contacts/connections/dates with 36 hours and had to hide my profile as I was/am over-whelmed.

My take is that OLD is a great way to meet people.

At the very least, I now have several new, very pretty, FB friends!

-t2g