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HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 3:32 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013
(((cl131716)))
So sorry for what you are going though.
Me: BH, Her: WW, Married 40 years, Reconciled
strongerdaybyday ( member #40264) posted at 3:46 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013
"My lovely wife is now cleaning the office and she wasn't too happy about unplugging my computer. Please keep it professional out of respect for my wife. She would appreciate it as would I. Thanks and sell sell sell."
Hate this email - it sounds like you bitched and moaned at him until he did it.
I don't think you should send your email - it would be more impactful if the email came from him.
First line of OW when it called me (didn't know it was OW) " I am not after your husband. I have a boyfriend."
SisterMilkshake - The OW said to me, "I can tell you guys love each other, I actually encouraged him to fight for his family" 
Gee...was that before or after she slept with him..how nice of her.
Me-BW Him - WH
Married 6 years, together 15 years
3 awesome and beautiful children
OC discovered on Dday - born in 2005
D-Day Summer 2013
working towards D...I can't pretend anymore
**If I edit I'm correcting a typo!**
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 3:51 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013
If this woman is an employee of your husband's business(therefore YOUR business),then surely she filled out a resume,tax papers,something, that will have her BH's info on there.
Or ask your WH. Im sure he knows where her BH works.
He has said some of the right things. Watch his actions.
ETA: Do not send that email to OW...she won't care.
[This message edited by confused615 at 9:52 AM, September 25th (Wednesday)]
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
cl131716 (original poster member #40699) posted at 4:27 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013
I haven't sent the e-mail. I think just getting it out on paper helped though. I'm sure you are right and she won't care. I am definitely watching his actions now.
Me BS 33 Him WS 37
Together 6 years, married almost 4 years
D-day: 07/23/13 EA with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out about a past kiss
D-day: 05/30/16 Saw first text message from new COW
D-day: 09-08-16 Dr. Fone confirmed EA
HurtButHopeful? ( member #25144) posted at 4:55 PM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013
cl13,
Is there a way to have what you saw (her going into other people's offices and unplugging their computers) documented? The people whose computers were unplugged could also sign informal documents, stating their computers were tampered with. This could go in OW's employment file, and it could be used to fire her if she continues crossing boundaries and being unprofessional.
Like someone else said, in most work places, that type of tampering would be a serious offense.
Sounds like it is a good thing your WH is looking for work elsewhere. His work place is a very dysfunctional and unprofessional environment.
HBH
Resources for R:
His Needs Her Needs, by Dr. Willard Harley
Love Busters, by Dr. Willard Harley
(for husbands) Becoming the Ultimate Husband, by Reb Bradley
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