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Peanut5 (original poster member #36051) posted at 10:15 PM on Tuesday, September 24th, 2013
I was thinking (obsessing) over ow again. And I suddenly realized that in some strange way, doesn't that mean that in some ironic way that I would be having a one sided affair I don't tell him that I'm thinking of her. And sometimes it's at times when I should be focused on him. Or something else important. Sorta made me realize the harm I'm doing
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 12:02 AM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013
(((Peanut5)))
I don't look at it as a one sided affair. She caused you pain and your brain is trying to wrap itself around how this could have happened. It normal to have thoughts about the OW/OM. As time passes, the thoughts will lessen.
ladies_first ( member #24643) posted at 2:17 AM on Wednesday, September 25th, 2013
Commending you on your insight.
Another good question to ask yourself -- when you get stuck on obsessing on anything in life -- is:
What am I getting out of this?
Usually it comes down to control or anger or safety, all of which are masking FEAR ... and stalling forward action.
Perhaps a better question is: What am I afraid of?
[This message edited by ladies_first at 8:17 PM, September 24th (Tuesday)]
"We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us." ~J. Campbell
"In the final analysis, it is your own attitude that will make or break you, not what has happened to you." ~D. Galloway
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