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sad81712 (original poster member #37418) posted at 8:48 PM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013
I can't believe 14 months after dday and feeling really good about our recovery I find out my H has not told me everything....He's been lying for over a year....I'm heartbroken. He gets home tonight and I need to be ready. I can't find where the 180 guide is. I've looked through the Healing Library. Please help me find it..... 
"Pain is mandatory for all of us. It's what teaches us. Suffering is what's optional. That's what happens when we try to skip over the pain."-Glennon Doyle Melton
BW(me)-52 WH-51
Married 25yrs
DD & DS
D-day 8-2012
Morhurt ( member #40166) posted at 8:53 PM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013
Here is the link:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/faq_bs.asp#FAQ11
Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.
Morhurt ( member #40166) posted at 8:55 PM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013
I wanted to get that to you quickly but now I'll respond...
Oh man sad81712, I am so sorry!!! I can't even imagine, that is my absolute biggest fear. I really hope that this is something you two can work through.
Big ((hugs)) on this awful day. Don't forget to breathe.
Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.
heartache101 ( member #26465) posted at 9:03 PM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013
Sad
Has he now came clean or is this a new discovery you found?
There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing
sad81712 (original poster member #37418) posted at 9:13 PM on Thursday, October 10th, 2013
Thank so much for the fast reply. I've read it and now hope I can do it. I'm devastated.
He did not come clean...I found out. I felt I needed to snoop. He's been out of town for a few days so I went to his office and poked around on his computer....and I found more. I found he had been talking and did "God knows what" on Skype. It was from 2011. I believe he hasn't cheated during this past year. But, he still hasn't come clean of what he did in the past....even after many times I was on my knees begging him to tell me everything.... I'm sick to my stomach 
"Pain is mandatory for all of us. It's what teaches us. Suffering is what's optional. That's what happens when we try to skip over the pain."-Glennon Doyle Melton
BW(me)-52 WH-51
Married 25yrs
DD & DS
D-day 8-2012
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