We had a very long, emotionally exhausting talk this week in which we both shared, cried, and strove to understand each other's point of view, that HE initiated!
We came out with some really good questions we're going to be asking in this week's DIALOG with each other.
He got offered a job, but the offer was TRULY insulting. The recruiter tried to blame it on mis-communication. FWH was just crushed, hurt, and angry. We had a long talk about why, I reminded him that salary info was the first thing he gave to any recruiter, and I let him know that I would support any decision he made about the offer. He contacted the recruiter again, let him know that this was simply unacceptable, and told the recruiter to go earn his payment. Well, about 10 minutes ago, we received a call that said that the employer agreed to our (minimum) terms, so it looks like FWH will join the ranks of the employed again real soon! Hallelujah!
And I cracked up a bunch of people in the Fun & Games forum with one of my most embarrassing moments.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012