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imwideawake (original poster member #23386) posted at 12:41 PM on Monday, October 21st, 2013
That's all I say anymore when talking about my life. No need to give the whole story, he cheated, we tried to make it work for 3 yrs, blah blah. Nope, just, my marriage blew up. I kind of like that. If someone asks I tell, but I no longer feel the need to explain why we divorced. This was a milestone I was looking forward to and hoping to reach. I'm glad I'm there!
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Together 21 years.
Married 19
Me: BW
Him XWH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now grown
Divorced 12/04/12
TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 1:18 PM on Monday, October 21st, 2013
I am so glad you have reached this milestone. Everyone thinks their life will come to an end when they D, but they eventually realize that it doesn't. Once you reach the place of indifference, you actually look at it as a blessing in decise.
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 3:14 PM on Monday, October 21st, 2013
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 3:23 PM on Monday, October 21st, 2013
I refer to it as "when my life imploded".
k9
BS:61
WS: 53
Betrayed: 24 years
Affairs: 15 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.
lynnm1947 ( member #15300) posted at 7:09 PM on Monday, October 21st, 2013
I refer to it as the time he wanted every woman he met to fu*k him and I needed one man to love only me. It was 15 years this past spring--and I rarely think of it any more unless I am commenting on someone else's posts. 
Believe it or not, you will get there, too.
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
imwideawake (original poster member #23386) posted at 7:33 PM on Monday, October 21st, 2013
Thanks for the replies. Last year at this time I was waiting for divorce to be finalized. It was an intense phase. Now I'm so much more relaxed. It took a while to get there. Divorce seemed like such a heavy word then.
Together 21 years.
Married 19
Me: BW
Him XWH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now grown
Divorced 12/04/12
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 1:47 AM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013
Yep! There is life after divorce.
I like your metaphor. Mine also blew up.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
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