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 FogHater (original poster member #33156) posted at 4:28 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013

I have been sick for couple weeks so we haven't had sex. No odor..no discharge.

We did it the other night...back to odor and discharge.

What does that mean?

Is the affair still going on is this false R...I really want to know

Besides my gut is talking to me telling me something isn't right?

I don't know what I'm doing
but I know what I'm not doing

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Healing2012 ( member #35238) posted at 4:36 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013

The thing that struck me in your post is that your gut is telling you something. I hated that feeling because for me, my gut was always right. Be on guard. Check things out.

As for the symptoms you described...I'm not entirely sure. I don't know your entire history. Was there an STD in the past? That would raise a red flag for me. However, I know I've had symptoms that were not related to sex or STDs (well before the A).

BS: Me (46)
XH: Husband (52)
Married 10 years
Two children 11 & 23 (my stepson)
D-day #1: 12/18/11
D-day #2: 8/26/12 (still in contact w/ OW)
Status: Divorced - 6/18/15

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lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 4:38 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013

Follow your gut, If it’s telling you something isn’t right, it’s probably not. It doesn’t mean its false R but something obviously is going on. You need to explore it and find out what is going on.

BS- Me (45)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R.Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.

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AML04 ( member #39682) posted at 4:39 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013

It could be a yeast infection he is passing back to you but not sure how it would clear up on its own in between? Men can have yeast infections with no symptoms.

Good luck to you, I truly hope it's not because of what you're thinking.

Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R

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 FogHater (original poster member #33156) posted at 4:55 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013

Me either

A little history no STDs as far as I know.

We have been checked out and both of us r clear.

I filed for D in August he was served

he didn't want D I decided to R and we r going to counseling

He told her it was over he wanted to work on r marriage she got mad messaged me on FB blocked her

Haven't heard from her...which is good but this has happened before because she threatened me and to keep peace he didn't enforce NC

Not sure this has happened but....

He has strung her along for 3 yrs

She even asked him to marry her

Would she really give up so easy?

She thought she had him all wrapped up. Then he decides he doesn't want her.

I have also lost a lot of weight and look good...sometimes I think he's only here because of that.

I am down to what I was when we got married.

Sorry if I'm rambling...

If u have questions just ask.

Know I'm skipping around a lot.

I don't know what I'm doing
but I know what I'm not doing

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ladies_first ( member #24643) posted at 6:11 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013

odor and discharge.

This requires a trip to the doctor.

"Discharge?" If he hadn't cum in awhile, there would likely be more noticeable cum. But that wouldn't explain a strong odor.

Mention any colored discharge, or pain, to your doctor.

"We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us." ~J. Campbell
"In the final analysis, it is your own attitude that will make or break you, not what has happened to you." ~D. Galloway

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topperoff22 ( member #40762) posted at 6:13 PM on Tuesday, October 22nd, 2013

Could be a yeast infection and you just notice it more because things "got disturbed and moved around." If you get pain or itching then get ye to a doctor so it doesn't spread and then really hurt. Ugh..had one of those..painful!

BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

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