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 suposd2btheonly1 (original poster member #40753) posted at 3:43 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013

I went home last night and told WH to leave. I had told him earlier in the evening but I was afraid he wouldn't take me seriously. He had packed his stuff but was hoping I wasn't serious. He had the nerve to ask me if we could have sex one last time

Then he starts asking me how were gonna do this, if its going to be the way we discussed if this ever happened or differently. I calmly explained to him that since he made a decision without my consent that I will be deciding how we "do this". He says he needed to know, I told him I don't owe him anything.

Then he tries to lay down in the bed. I asked what he was doing. He said trying to get a few hours of sleep before work. I told him he needed to sleep elsewhere I wasn't playing around this is serious.

He left. I'm somewhat relived but fighting the urge to call or text him.

Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head

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No12turn2 ( member #40996) posted at 3:46 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013

Stay strong. My D Day is still fresh so I can only encourage you to do well by you and the boys. Take care and good luck!

Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

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 suposd2btheonly1 (original poster member #40753) posted at 5:14 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013

Thank you!

He doesn't realize that I don't NEED him, he needs to make me WANT him.

Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head

posts: 206   ·   registered: Sep. 23rd, 2013   ·   location: Oklahoma
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Raven96 ( member #40298) posted at 5:52 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013

(((suposd2b)))

I'm so sorry. Sending good thoughts your way!

Marriage isn't a test, so why cheat?

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EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 5:54 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013

Then he tries to lay down in the bed

He is definitely not taking you seriously. I would expect him to keep 'testing' you a lot more before he gets it.

posts: 6985   ·   registered: May. 31st, 2009   ·   location: Pennsylvania
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 suposd2btheonly1 (original poster member #40753) posted at 6:14 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013

I had to call him bc I think he took my van keys. I kept it strictly business but he tried to act as if I was just having a moment.

Nope! This is the only way he will get it. I'm looking at other places to live for me and the boys as I type this.

Not playing around! Show me that I want you bc I damn sure don't need you!

Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head

posts: 206   ·   registered: Sep. 23rd, 2013   ·   location: Oklahoma
id 6541615
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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 6:40 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013

He is definitely not taking you seriously. I would expect him to keep 'testing' you a lot more before he gets it.

Oh yes, he's going to string this out & play you for all he's worth. Prepare yourself. Please get some people IRL who can support you during this.

And I applaud you for your resolve.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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 suposd2btheonly1 (original poster member #40753) posted at 7:19 PM on Tuesday, October 29th, 2013

I have my family and a few close friends who are supporting me through this. I won't rugsweep his A which is what he's expecting me to do. Won't do it.

I hate its come to this but if he really wants me and his family then he will change. A couple days won't cut it, he needs to do a complete turn around before I even consider taking him back. And even then it will be slow and cautiously.

Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head

posts: 206   ·   registered: Sep. 23rd, 2013   ·   location: Oklahoma
id 6541704
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