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(((SSM))) I had this situation a few weeks ago. Great date, chemistry, I thought, a little kissing action, asked me out again, talked after I got home. Then nothing. I sent him a hi text the next day, he responded hi and then nothing again. It's so frustrating and confusing. Why say you want to see me again if you don't? I don't understand people sometimes.

I hope you hear from him, but if not, I bet someone better is around the corner.

I think the "busy" is usually an excuse. Unless you're a brain surgeon with back-to-back cases you can spare a few secs to text.

That's what that guy says in the book "He's just not that into you" and I quote:

“If he’s not calling you, it’s because you are not on his mind. If he creates expectations for you, and then doesn’t follow through on little things, he will do same for big things. Be aware of this and realize that he’s okay with disappointing you. Don’t be with someone who doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do. If he’s choosing not to make a simple effort that would put you at ease and bring harmony to a recurring fight, then he doesn’t respect your feelings and needs. “Busy” is another word for “asshole.” “Asshole” is another word for the guy you’re dating. You deserve a fcking phone call.”

― Greg Behrendt

I went on a 1st date with a medical doctor that poofed on me.... he didn't have ANY problem texting me and calling me ALL DAY LONG while he worked.... until the day after our date. Then, suddenly he was gone. Its a cowardly way to be but it is the harsh reality of dating today. He acted like he had fun, acted completely "IN" to me, asked me on another date and even planned where we would go (some fancy restaurant downtown) and talked about other things we could do in the future, and still poofed. I just don't get it.

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 8:58 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)]

Shelly-this is exactly why i quit OLD-it was the same thing over and over. I was tired of the BS and games. It didn't matter what I did or didn't do-or say-etc.

Occasionally I go back anonymously to browse and guess what? These guys are STILL on there- a year or 2 or more. IDK what they're looking for-and apparently they don't either

SSM - did you ever hear anything from this guy?

Occasionally I go back anonymously to browse and guess what? These guys are STILL on there- a year or 2 or more. IDK what they're looking for-and apparently they don't either

So true....anytime I get curious and reactivate my account just to see who is out there.....its the same guys.... which I find slightly disturbing.... IMO

Nope. Guess he was really "BUSY"

I'm disappointed, but I'll live. I've come to realize that if this is the way people are going to be, good riddance early on... save me trouble later.

I will not attempt any more contact, and at this point, I'm not sure I'd even respond if I did hear from him. It's rude, and a big pet peeve of mine.

“Busy” is another word for “asshole.” “Asshole” is another word for the guy you’re dating. You deserve a fcking phone call.”

I will reiterate this! ^^^^

YOU deserve SO much better! FTG! No one is that busy! Grrrrrr

Was just checking in for an update. I am sorry he has not called.

But just stand clear for bigger and better things!

He sounds like an ass. I think it's time to next his ass and move onward and upward my friend!

[This message edited by Exit Wounds at 4:40 PM, November 7th (Thursday)]

Sorry SSM. Even though it was only one date, it's hard to have your hopes up and be let down like that.

But I know that at least for me, every time I tried to force things, and worried about what the other person thought all the time, and worried if he would call or not, and.... well, you know the drill.... I found that I was usually working too hard at something that was never going to work in the first place.

This, Yes, this is so true. And forcing things delayed something better from happening. good riddance. You've wasted enough on him. If he aint chasing, he isnt worthy.

What an ass!

I went on an OLD date once. The guys seemed soooo in. We seemed to really click. The conversations flowed so easily. We almost closed the restaurant down. Then. Nothing. Poof. What a fucking coward.

What book is helping thru this time in my life is "Why Men Love Bitches". It's really an excellent guide to not muddle thru dating, but how to keep our focus on us and stay centered while dating again.

It is the only book I have actually purchased recently and read cover to cover several times. It's the kind of book you can open up to any page and read there....

I went on an OLD date once. The guys seemed soooo in. We seemed to really click. The conversations flowed so easily. We almost closed the restaurant down. Then. Nothing. Poof. What a fucking coward.

This seems to be a recurring theme in OLD