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inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 10:03 PM on Sunday, November 3rd, 2013
My kitchen is big, but is not user friendly in design. I don't have a problem with someone wanting to talk to me while I'm cooking, just stay down at the end where you're out of my way. I can still hear you, I promise. Otoh, if you want to actually help, I'm good with that, and you can get in my way as long as it doesn't annoy you when I get in yours. Because I guarantee, that will happen in my kitchen. 
There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown
ninebark ( member #24534) posted at 3:08 PM on Monday, November 4th, 2013
My BF has learned that when I am cooking it is best to be scarce. We don't have a lot of space and he has this uncanny ability to be standing exactly where I need to go, which means we start a frustrated tango that usually ends we me stamping my foot and snarling at him to get out. lol.
Now he just stands on the other side of the counter and chats with me, out of the way. lol
[This message edited by ninebark at 9:09 AM, November 4th (Monday)]
BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 3:16 PM on Monday, November 4th, 2013
Stay out of my kitchen. I need that sign made up. I do not enjoy cooking with others. If you want to help, go pour drinks in the living room so that everyone else stays out too. 
I am quite social otherwise and everybody always ends up in the kitchen, but I hate it. Now I have everything done ahead of time so that the only cooking done when others arrive is carrying dishes to the table. They think I am organized and nice. I know that I have prevented them seeing crabby Pentup. 
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
Newlease ( member #7767) posted at 4:07 PM on Monday, November 4th, 2013
At our house, I am the helper - SO is the Chef. He loves to cook and is good at it. I do it out of necessity, because I like to eat. I'm very willing to chop, dice, stir, and clean up.
Now baking is different. I love to bake and SO loves to eat sweets, so when I'm baking he exits the kitchen until I ask him to sample something.
NL
Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.
TrulyReconciled ( member #3031) posted at 4:45 PM on Monday, November 4th, 2013
I can't stand cooking in my kitchen with someone else UNLESS they know WTF they are doing and don't need me to teach, supervise, or do it the hell over. I have no problem teaching my kids how to cook. I do NOT want to "teach" another adult what to do.
^^^ This ^^^
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wiserinsocal ( member #18487) posted at 2:41 AM on Wednesday, November 6th, 2013
Me personally, I prefer to cook alone or with DD (older one) helping me or close by to help with the spices when we tryout something new. Otherwise give me my space. 
"It's the intangibles that are fragile"- WiserinSoCal
"The Main things are the plain things, and the Plain things are the main things" - Alistair Begg
Every one needs to believe in something, or they will fall for anything...
Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 6:54 PM on Wednesday, November 6th, 2013
I don't mind people helping out when I am cooking, but if other people are in charge, apparently my instruction and menu opinions are not appreciated and I must exit the kitchen immediately before I start twitching.
Spaghetti with mirepoix veggies 
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