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better4me ( member #30341) posted at 6:28 PM on Tuesday, November 5th, 2013
I think you make good points StrongerOne!
Regarding Match log in times, i have a friend who hasn't been on match in over a year, back when I was on I would see that he had been logged into the site in the "last 24 hours" and he hadn't been! Can't go by what that says. I think lowering my expectations and being less anxious about texting response times, etc. has been an important part of my getting the hang of OLD...
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 6:32 PM on Tuesday, November 5th, 2013
And giving the friendship a chance while you date others seems like a very wise (and grown up!
) choice CmeGo
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
trumanshow ( member #25624) posted at 7:34 PM on Tuesday, November 5th, 2013
I don't think him looking was the problem-just that he was "too busy" to spare a few secs to respond, when he was all over it before on a daily basis
remarried 11-15-15
Her prize is a man who ran out on his wife and children. His is a woman who is too stupid to understand that she is not special, she is simply there.
cmego (original poster member #30346) posted at 8:22 PM on Tuesday, November 5th, 2013
Yes, I never said we were exclusive...it is the switch from contacting me multiple times a day to claiming he was "really busy" yet could find the time to be on OLD.
We are in email contact and kinda just trying to be friends for now. I think he freaked out and judged really fast...which means he hasn't quite figured out how to just relax and get to know someone. I called him on it, he took it well, admitted his "issue", and now we try a friendship.
I'm good with it. We are communicating. Maybe it will be something in the future, maybe not.
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
clralb ( member #17185) posted at 9:37 PM on Tuesday, November 5th, 2013
Oy vey! It's exhausting, isn't it? 
"To keep the body in good health is a duty... otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear."
Buddha
Blackhair ( member #39451) posted at 9:29 AM on Thursday, November 7th, 2013
Stronger one,
I can not agree with you more here, you have to learn to take it not too seriously at the beginning.
Especially online dating, you probably have to meet quite a few guys before you both have the chemistry and willingness to be exclusive.
Have fun and enjoy dating! When the right person comes along you will know it.
M: 10 years both late 40s.
3 Children
DDay: April 2013
Legally separated on Oct 2013.
I am determined to fly even with broken wings and a broken heart!
homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 2:18 PM on Thursday, November 7th, 2013
I'm reading (again) a really great book about relationships.
It says that most guys will pull back after a couple of dates to re assess the situation. The book says to continue on with your life, because once they stop thinking, IF they are interested in a good, quality, person, they will be back. If not,then they will go on and try to find someone to just screw....
The book is called "why men love bitches". Don't let the title scare you off, it's really about how to set healthy boundaries in a new relationship. The title is a "hook".
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
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