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Lola7 ( member #41195) posted at 4:14 PM on Thursday, December 5th, 2013
Alex - I agree with the others. You need to get a lawyer and stand up for yourself.
He's trying to turn it all around and blame you for his actions, and it's complete bullshit. You didn't do anything wrong. All of this is on him, and any person with a shread of integrity or decency should have gotten on their knees and begged forgiveness for his bullshit actions by now.
You don't need someone in your life who treats you this way. I know it hurts, but he really is showing you what he is.
caelitus mihi vires
"My strength is from heaven"
DIVORCED!
AlexFL (original poster member #40966) posted at 3:52 AM on Friday, December 6th, 2013
Thank you so much for posting. It really helps. I feel I have completely honest on this site and I appreciate all of the advice. I especially like the straight forward slap in the face reality from some of you after reading my craziness. I feel when you are in the craziness- u do to always see it for yourself.
The reason I keep holding on is because I know what once was- and it truly was so good for 2 decades. Best friends and inseparable. I was looking through old photo albums tonight and it kills me to see how young we were when we started and how great things were and now to see what we have become. So sad.
crazynot ( member #24572) posted at 5:38 AM on Friday, December 6th, 2013
Alex, don't look at the albums. I'm so glad you are in IC, work with that. Getting through this (and you will) will take you to a much stronger and happier place. There are few things worse than living with a cheater and a manipulative bully. Please, please try to 180 him TOTALLY and get the legal advice you need. There are no ifs about 'R' with someone like this... even if it was on offer and it sounds like it's not.
Me - 50
Him - 51
DDay 21 March 2009
Divorcing and delighted!
Do you want me to tell you something really subversive? Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it.
AlexFL (original poster member #40966) posted at 3:58 AM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013
I didn't expect this.... The reality of it all has hit me. I feel wiped out and depressed. I don't have any ignition to try and do anything. I think I keep holding on... Still confused and sad. Thought it would be getting better for me mentally. I was just covering up my hurt feeling trying to find a silver lining. I'm allowing myself to feel the pain. I wish it wasn't the holidays. Went to IC tonight again. Not sure tonight's session helped.
h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 4:02 AM on Wednesday, December 11th, 2013
It will get better, Alex, but not for a while. You have to feel these feelings. They will pass.
Hang in there.
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