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This has to be one of the saddest posts I have ever read since being on SI. The only ones hurting here are the children. Neither your DD or SIL need custody of children, as neither are responsible enough to make decisions for themselves, much less children. A child not being enrolled in school in any state, unless skillfully home schooled, is illegal and the authorities need to be called and this reported. This is a form of child neglect and anyone knowing of this is responsible for reporting it or they are also responsible for child neglect.

If you really want to see your grandchildren, then you need to step up to the plate and report this at once unless it is just hearsay on your part and you don't really know it to be a fact that your GS is not in school. Right now it is not the issue of who will get custody, it is the issue that you may know something that is harming your GS and are turning a blind eye to it in a way. I don't mean to be harsh, but it is the way I feel when I read this. (((HUGS)))

TG, it *is* just hearsay on my part. Even if I knew *for sure* GS wasn't in school, I have no clue which district I would report it to. SIL could literally anywhere in the state. I have no idea where any of his family lives and therefore no way to find out where he is currently. All I know is what DD told us in the short time we saw her while she was in town. And honestly, I'm not sure how much of this info came from stbxSIL or how accurate it is. If it *did* come from stbxSIL he could very well be... dishonest about it just to make DD worry. Like I said in a previous post, he's very much a typical unremorseful wayward so I wouldn't put it past him to do and say things just to screw with her head.

As for DD not being responsible enough to make decisions for herself much less the kids, part of the reason she moved was for a fresh start, so she could give the kids more stability than they've been getting with their father. I still say moving every year (if not more) is not good for them. They have no chance to even begin putting down roots. I think in the last three years they must have moved half a dozen times or more. Even "military brats" don't move that often.

And before anyone says anything, yes, I know she could have made a fresh start here in Ohio but that would have been no guarantee the situation would be different.

I wish I'd seen this coming, I really do. We'd have taken her *and* the kids despite the crowding. Three adults and three kids in a one bedroom house would have been a bit... cozy but if it would have saved DD from this incertainty, we'd have managed. We did before in the last place we lived. But I guess I'm more of an optimist than I wanted to believe.

Just checking for an update. Do you know when you'll hear something?