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ZenMumWalking ( member #25341) posted at 6:55 PM on Wednesday, April 2nd, 2014
This is great news AD, sending you a big FIST BUMP!!!!
I am so happy for you and your children that you will have some peace from this bit of crazy. (not to say that her crazy is completely over, unfortunately 
)
I've got my fingers crossed for the closing, hope it all goes well for you.
((((AD))))
Me (BS), Him (WH): late-50's
3 DS: 26, 25, 22
M: 30+ (19 1/2 at Dday)
Dday: Dec 2008
Wanted R, not gonna happen (in permanent S)
Used to be DeadMumWalking, doing better now
devistatedmom ( member #24961) posted at 9:06 PM on Wednesday, April 2nd, 2014
Fantastic AD. I'm soooo glad it's over for you. 
One last piece of advice: I'd have your lawyer send a letter before the house closing stating that she has until April 22 (give yourself a day or two before the closing) to collect any possessions still at your house. Once you move and the closing is done, any property left by her, stated in the MSA, will become yours to do with as you see fit. ie. you are NOT moving the TV and the chair to your new house for her to claim again a month later....if she wants this stuff, she gets it before you move.
I just sent my X an email regarding a date he had to remove his stuff, but with your X? Yeah, you need it in legal terms.
I'm glad you slept so well last night, and I hope you are going to do something to relax and celebrate in the next few days. 
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
5674emt ( member #40012) posted at 9:36 PM on Wednesday, April 2nd, 2014
Congratulations on the closure of that chapter. Take the kids out and celebrate with Ice Cream!!!
BS 53
WH 44
M 14 years at time of DD
2 young daughters
DD 12-8-12
OW=Xfriend
A-3 YEARS and her husband was an accomplice.
In R, IC, & MC Since 1 week after DD. On the mend with the help of God, Friends and Family.
What2do ( member #497) posted at 10:30 PM on Wednesday, April 2nd, 2014
AD, you have SURVIVED INFIDELITY. Congratulations!!!
Character is what you do when no one is watching.
There is the right path and the easy path - which one will you take?
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 2:25 AM on Thursday, April 3rd, 2014
Standing up and clapping for you! I am so pleased that this stage is over for you! And I second legally and formally giving her a limit to send someone over to collect her belongings.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
thenon-goddess ( member #31229) posted at 2:56 AM on Thursday, April 3rd, 2014
Great news, AD! I'm sure the crazy won't end for a while, but at least you have that hurdle over. Now a big sigh of relief and enjoy your new home and time with your kiddos. Congrats - you've come a long way!
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allatsea ( member #38923) posted at 8:57 AM on Thursday, April 3rd, 2014
All my congratulations have and will be said face-to-face.
So pleased for you, buddy
You can't fix crazy. All you can do is document it
velveteer ( member #30997) posted at 10:04 AM on Thursday, April 3rd, 2014
I can't tell you how pleased I am to read this AD. Its been a long road for you, but you have done so well in truly awful circumstances. Congratulations and welcome to the rest of your life. YOUR life.
Abbondad (original poster member #37898) posted at 10:20 AM on Thursday, April 3rd, 2014
I've been reading everyone's accolades and smiling. I was talking to someone yesterday and told her that I survived this with the help of my therapist, my attorney, my brother--and an online support group, not one of whom I have ever met face-to-face. She was incredulous--not the least of which because she knows my skepticism when it comes to "group anything."
Yes, I know "I" did it, but really--I absolutely can see myself still wandering the hell of Limbo for at least a while longer if it hadn't been for SI. And I say this for anyone who has followed my thread as a lurker and for any newbies: listen to the people here. And don't be me.
Yes, I have--incredibly, to me--survived infidelity. Can I go now? ;-)
Mod, close this damn thread--I'm off to " New Beginnings."
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
Sadmumma ( member #42192) posted at 1:41 PM on Thursday, April 3rd, 2014
*high five* abbondad.... Great outcome...
On any given day you have the power to say "my story is not going to end like this"
Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 1:53 PM on Thursday, April 3rd, 2014
Can I go now?
If you mean from SI - HELL NO! If you mean from D/S, HELL YES! 
2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
Deeply Scared ( Administrator #2) posted at 2:08 PM on Thursday, April 3rd, 2014
Mod, close this damn thread--I'm off to " New Beginnings."
Please and thank you are a couple things that would have been nice of you to add to your demand. 
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
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