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Nature_Girl (original poster member #32554) posted at 7:15 AM on Saturday, November 16th, 2013
Gardens, I have been volunteering in the community since the spring. I am part of a support group for people overcoming Really Big Problems, and I also am with a group that provides hippotherapy.
I now have a phone screen on Monday for a full-time position. I've had phone screens before, but only a couple. At least someone is interested enough to want to phone screen me!
I won't be talking about The Garage during the phone screen.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
gardens64 ( member #38449) posted at 7:26 PM on Saturday, November 16th, 2013
Good luck on the phone screening!!!
I think this is one of the most challenging things for me. I gave up a very good career option to stay with WH. Additionally I stayed home with my kids. Now I feel like I am really paying for that. I am grateful for the time with my kids but why is caregiving so marginalized in this society?
Nature_Girl (original poster member #32554) posted at 9:05 PM on Saturday, November 16th, 2013
I have the same questions, Gardens. I had my own business, I put it on hold when the kids came. The plan was when they got older I would pick it back up. It was never going to be enough for me to support a family on, it was going to supplement the salary EX made. Now that that's all over & done with, I can't resurrect my business. It will never be enough. To even barely make ends meet I'd need to be working 60 or more hours a week. That's not possible. So I've killed it, and that kills me. It kills a part of me to have to walk away from my career, my baby, my artistic soul. Even if I went to work for others in the industry, it would still require too many hours to make ends meet.
And now I have a hard time getting anyone to even give me a phone screen for a part-time receptionist position. It burns to know I'm competing against recent high school grads and losing out.
So I'm fully willing to completely, 100% change careers and go back to college & totally start OVER. I'll do it. It's just a bitch that I have to. It's a bitch that NONE of my life experience counts. At all.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Fireball72 ( member #20152) posted at 4:53 AM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
I don't know what state you're in, but several jurisdictions have programs for what they call "displaced homemakers"; there's even a special place on the FAFSA that asks the question. I think that you can get specialized help in your situation.
Google "displaced homemaker" on the Web and it will give you links to some state programs. Hopefully yours is one of them.
ETA: This link may also be helpful:
http://displacedhomemakers.blogspot.com/2012/01/finding-grants-for-displaced-homemakers.html
[This message edited by Fireball72 at 10:55 PM, November 16th (Saturday)]
BS (me):44 (now 52) WS (him):42 (now 50)Married 3.5 years, together 5.5 D-Day #1 - 2/10/16 #2 - 2/20/16 #3 - 5/27/16 Divorced 6/12/17 One daughter, 9, the light of my life. Finally happy.
courageous ( member #34477) posted at 2:10 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
Good luck with your phone screening!
Me: BW (in my 40's) Him: ExWH EA/PA with MOW coworker(also married). He ended up marrying his mistress.
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