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More than school ever taught me;

That I will dream again;

That who I chose to be with as a kid was not who I needed to be with as an adult;

And that out of the midst and wreckage come good things; I have to be willing to look through the pain to find them

and that I can go on.

that who I once loved is now my enemy and

that the world is still ok and full of good people who care.

I learned that I am stronger than I thought

and that perhaps I will even love one day, again.

I've decided that OW can have the prize

and I will go on to watch many more suns rise and set.

Life will be quieter now but also filled with other things.

The drama she can keep and the peace I will keep.

Yay,Ashland this list is fabulous! I think Ill print this out! I keep one on my phone that says: Don't be afraid to start over. It's a new chance to rebuild things. This time better. The way you want it.

I like that, MMD.

It's a long time to get here, that's for sure.

I think for a long time I was in a kind of dream state that wouldn't let me look past the pain. I had to do a lot of admitting in order to move on.

Maybe that's part of the acceptance we all have to go through.

Did you ever think...what was I thinking?

I love this post Ashland13! The only thing I would change is OW having the prize. Your ex is not a prize … YOU ARE! I am excited about my life's journey but you are right … I had to work past that pain. I had to name it, feel it, grieve it, process it, look it straight in the eye … you get my point. But today is the gift that I have been given for getting through it.

I am so happy to see this post and to read the strength of the person behind it! You are doing amazing in your battle! Keep up the good work.