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sunsetslost (original poster member #39885) posted at 6:38 PM on Saturday, November 16th, 2013
I moved out today. I'm sitting in a parking lot waiting for my room to be ready. She was there. She had some things of mine I needed to get. We talked a bit. We cried together. She said she was sorry. I said I don't care. We had a long hug. She told me she would miss me. I bit my tongue. I'll likely never see her again. And to top it off her sister is at the shopping center I stopped in. I waved, she drove off. Whole family of cowards. Rough day. I'm meeting some friends for drinks later. I'm getting by. Thanks for all of your support and well wishes.
Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 8:32 PM on Saturday, November 16th, 2013
Sending you good thoughts and prayers for peace and happiness.
(((sunset)))
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 10:12 PM on Saturday, November 16th, 2013
As hard as it is to let go and leave, you have taken the first step towards a better situation for you. I'll be the first to say that it is hard. You're on a different rollercoaster now. The difference is you decide where you go and when you are ready to get off the ride. You won't know that for awhile, you'll feel all out of control. You will gain control again and then you will fly.
Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 10:22 PM on Saturday, November 16th, 2013
I have a very peaceful mental image of you floating in the gulf, at one with the waves & the seagulls, staring at the sky and pondering the future you can create for yourself.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
stronger08 ( member #16953) posted at 11:50 PM on Saturday, November 16th, 2013
Walking away is the most emotionally draining experience. Yet its also the best thing you can do for yourself. You have overcome the biggest hurdle by leaving. Now you have to finish the race. Your going to experience many emotions in the next few months. Its imperative you have a support system set up. Friends, family, professionals are all needed to get through this time. I'm not going to sugar coat anything. This will most likely be your loneliest and saddest period. But you will also grow stronger with each day without the constant reminder of the A in your face. Cry if you need to, go to the gym and beat the shit out of a heavy bag. Whatever works for you. It might be a good time to take some time off from work to collect your thoughts. Your not going to be able function there anyways. But use this time to heal and grow. In a short time you will feel better about yourself and the decision you made. Good luck my friend. Keep us posted on how your doing. If you need anything, just PM me. Even if its just to talk. Hang in there bro.
You cant eat soup with chopsticks.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 3:59 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
I hope you managed a few hours of rest last night.
I hope you do something nice for you today. Don't forget to take care of your self today.
Hugs
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 4:05 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
coldshot ( member #40882) posted at 6:16 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
A thousand mile journey starts with a single step... strength to you brother. This is another step.
"The liar's punishment is, not in the least that she is not believed, but that she cannot believe anyone else." -- George B. Shaw
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 6:30 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
Just keep swimming my friend - ((Hugs)) - you're headed in the right direction. Thinking of you sunsetslost.
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
sunsetslost (original poster member #39885) posted at 6:47 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
Thank you all. I went out with some friends for a while. Had a great time. Anxiety is pretty high today. I'm breathing deeply. Reaching out. Praying. Going to take it easy this week. Off work. I have a list of stuff I would like to accomplish but if I don't get to it so be it.
Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.
Tripletrouble ( member #39169) posted at 11:58 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
Congratulations on taking control and moving on towards something better....and condolences at the loss you've had to experience. Be good to yourself this week 
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Happily remarried 2018
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
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