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You are NOT pathetic nor should you be embarrassed for "not having a backbone." If anybody should feel those things, your xh should. He caused this mess and he's still relying on you to be the strong one - and you ARE the strong one. Don't beat yourself up because you haven't managed to just forget about this and move on. Your situation makes moving on extra difficult because your xh is so deeply ingrained in so many facets of your life. Just keep working on detachment by limiting your contact with him to the bare necessities - business discussions, kids, and finances. Any other issues he brings to the table should be of no concern to you moving forward and it's best if you communicate this to him up front. That way, your boundaries will be firmly set and he will either have to respect them or get the child shoulder. In the meantime, stay looking around for work - you don't have to rush, do it on YOUR terms and don't make any moves unless you're confident it is the best for your career and future happiness. Try to rekindle your passion for your current work. Your xh's involvement in your professional life should not define your work - you've been so successful at what you do because YOU put in the work and you contributed to a successful team. You should own your triumphs just as much as he owns his own personal contributions to your business team. Be proud of yourself. You sound like a smart, savvy, classy, compassionate lady who just so happens to have found herself at a crossroad in her life. Take a step back, a deep breath, and use equal parts heart and mind to determine the best path for YOU and at the end of the day, have no regrets that you're now living your life for YOU and carving out YOUR OWN destiny, free of any other person's baggage. (((Whatanidoing)))