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She's been all I have for so long. I don't have much family.

5454real, Word.

Really?

I cannot even begin to tell you the judgments that have been going on.

So what? Why, if you truly believed/felt that QS was the one you had forsaken all others opinions for, would they matter?(awkward Ik)

I've clung to what little family I have.

And your definition of that is? Isn't M an *all in/all out* kinda thing? What are your priorities?

Is it so important to have a mother? Yes, I think so. My mother the way she is? Not so much. (God I'm going to hell for that statement)

No you're not and I applaud you for seeing that.

The rest of it?

Now throw me in the mix, and not so much. Enter lack-of-parenting skills, poor-housekeeping, clothing choices. That's where it gets complicated. Grandma + me + DD(?*DS*) = disaster.

I call BS, MOM! If you go back to the beginning of where I started, this is YOUR family!!! Stick up for them. You and QS won't be perfect, you're gonna make mistakes along the way, but it sure as hell is just that, your family!!!!! Damnit, stick up for them and you! Big girl panties and all that!

You've got this!!! Follow your instincts.

[This message edited by 5454real at 11:29 PM, November 25th (Monday)]

My first instinct is to fight you on this and say you're missing the point about the word "family" entirely. However, deep down I know that's not the case and a complete re-wiring of my brain is required.

So what? Why, if you truly believed/felt that QS was the one you had forsaken all others opinions for, would they matter?

I've worked so hard in this area. Not caring about what other people think. Not needing validation. The whole bit. I'm to the point, I really don't care what Joe Blow thinks. But I stumbled and fell when it came to FOO. Which in the grand scheme of things means I haven't made much progress at all.

I'm listening 54. Your words haven't fallen on deaf ears.