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crazyblindsided (original poster member #35215) posted at 12:35 AM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2013
OMG! I cannot believe it. For the past couple of weeks my WH has had a complete turnaround. His business partner/ best friend just recently betrayed him. My WH feels EXACTLY the way I did when he betrayed me. My WH has sat me down to talk to me about his past actions and how he understands how badly he screwed our M up. He feels awful. I think I am seeing real remorse now. He has tears in his eyes when he says he can't believe what he did. I don't know why it is happening now, but we have had more than a few eye opening discussions and all I can say is I love this man and I am happy he gets it. I feel like my WH is back. 
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
painpaingoaway ( member #27196) posted at 1:12 AM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2013
I'm so happy for you! Wonderful news!
D-Day June 2009
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk
BrokenMomof2 ( member #41219) posted at 4:33 AM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2013
I am so happy for you!
It is such a wonderful experience when we see a change for the better in our WS.
Me: BS, 30
Him: WH, 31, 1 month EA & PA
Married 9 years
Kids: 2 perfect boys
D-day: Nov 3, 2013
Working on R
Sammy2013 ( member #41040) posted at 7:12 AM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2013
Glad you are seeing positives! It does feel good when they get it. I felt and still feel hopeful when WS shows that he gets it. We had a long convo tonight and he totally portrayed a WS who gets it. It was emotionally exhausting (the talks usually are), but I feel better about him and us.
Here's to continued forward momentum!!
WH -42;BS (me) 43
Married 17 years, 3 kiddos
First DDay 9/13. TT and 3 more DDays in the 6 months to follow. Reconciled in year 4 of the 2-5 year range.
blakesteele ( member #38044) posted at 9:43 AM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2013
Oh crazyblindsided....this is wonderful news indeed. I have seen how you love your husband, how much you are willing to do to save your M....it warms my heart that your husband is ready to fully accept the gift you are willing to give him.
God be with you both.
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 11:54 AM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2013
Finally!!!!
Isn't it wonderful??
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 11:58 AM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2013
CBS - that's great honey!! what a burden lifted.
crazyblindsided (original poster member #35215) posted at 6:29 PM on Wednesday, November 20th, 2013
Thank you so much everyone! It feels like relief. I feel excited. We have been having A LOT of Affair conversations, initiated by him, and I just am ecstatic about this.
I healed myself first and he sees that. He knows I got here on my own and a part of him is sorry he didn't help me more. He doesn't even recognize who he was back then. He also discussed going back to IC
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fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
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