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Nest2007 (original poster member #39532) posted at 4:12 AM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
It's amazing how making the wrong decision helps you realize the right one: yesterday we decided to remain in our small town for another six months. Although I felt a degree of relief at that decision (job stability, not having to sell our home, support network) I didn't feel a peace about the decision. Fast forward to this morning when I received some great responses and advice after posting this thread:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=514566
Reading those replies from seasoned SIers made it all clear. We thought we'd blown our chance yesterday when my H declined a position. A quick phone call later revealed the job had not yet been offered to the other applicant, and was his if he wanted it. He accepted, and this time, I'm at peace.
We're moving on!!
BS 35
WS 31
DD, only child
DDay: 06/09/13
End of TT/Full Disclosure 07/08/13
Reconciling. A stronger marriage now.
Psalm 37. It rocks my world. So does 140. Big guy upstairs has got it all figured out.
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 4:14 AM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 4:36 AM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
I feel you and your H are making a wise decision for your marriage. That really is the priority.
I had read your earlier thread and agreed with the members advising you to get out of the school/job, whatever. I am so glad that their responses to your post got you to rethink what you and your H were doing.
I am glad that you're at peace. Just think, no more having to deal with OW. Woot woot!
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 4:41 AM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
Yaaaay! 
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
Dark Inertia ( member #30727) posted at 4:52 AM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:54 AM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
Congratulations!
In following your story, I, too, thought moving would be better for you and your H.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Lovedyoumore ( member #35593) posted at 5:05 AM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
Good for you two. I hope te move gives you the peace you are looking for.
We will be moving to another state as soon as our house sells. It is scary to leave your home town, but we need a fresh place that is not tainted. My H already is working there and out of a home office.
Good luck and I hope the excitement transcends every part of your life.
Me 50's
WH 50's
Married 30+ years
2 young adult children
OW single 20 years younger
Together trying to R
Freedom's just another word for nothin' left to lose
RidingHealingRd ( member #33867) posted at 7:16 AM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
I think that your decision is a wise one that you will not regret!
6 months post Dday we packed up and moved out; moved 1600 miles away. Best move we ever made. Instantly eliminated many, many triggers. It made R, and my life, easer.
Good luck to you.
ME: 60 BS
HIM: 67 WH
Married: 35 years
D'Day: 10/29/10
in R 10 years and it's working but he is putting 200% into it (as he should) to make it right again.
The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.
sinsof thefather ( member #29295) posted at 10:46 AM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
Oh Nest I am so happy to see this. You are moving out and moving on!
...second star to the right and straight on till morning.
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 11:34 AM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
I can't even begin to tell you how glad I am to see this.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
ILINIA ( member #39836) posted at 1:33 PM on Monday, November 25th, 2013
Woohoo! What great end of year news! I'm even a bit jealous about your fresh start.
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