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confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 9:15 PM on Saturday, November 30th, 2013
I agree with everything fourever posted.
Honey..he is eating cake. He comes around,visits his daughter in your home,then leaves. MOW may not live in your state..but plenty of other women do. My guess is he is screwing around with more than "just" the one OW you know of.
You need to put a stop to this shit now. He may not be respecting you..but you need to. Tell him he is not welcome there until he has decided what he is going to do. He can visit your DD away from the home.
Read the 180. Do it.
My heart hurts for you. Im so very sorry he is acting like this.
Please get tested for STD's. Take care of YOU.
And find your anger. It will help you.
((((Jocelyn))))
[This message edited by confused615 at 3:15 PM, November 30th (Saturday)]
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
fourever ( member #30631) posted at 11:11 PM on Saturday, November 30th, 2013
How was today Jocelyn? Hope you had some time to think about you.
In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.
Always, tell the other BS! Always!
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!
Jocelyn (original poster new member #41459) posted at 2:07 AM on Sunday, December 1st, 2013
It was terrible today. I know you guys are being helpful but it's not what I wanted to hear so it sucks. The truth hurts. Maybe I'm just hurt that he doesn't want me. Maybe I'm hurt that this is reality and I don't want it to be real. I want the impossible. I feel like I don't want to get though this. I just want it to be done.
All my life I've been picked on and this is triggering all those feelings of loneliness and not being wanted and rejected. And being basically bullied by M-ow before this. I just don't understand after ten years together he just one day decided he was done and I'm supposed to clean up the mess. 
Me (BS): 32 WH: 33 1 young child
Married 7 years, together 10.
SA WH had PA with Married-OW in another state. We started R (10-22-13) and ~1 mth later I found out they are still talking via email.
Have been actively R since Nov-13.
fourever ( member #30631) posted at 4:15 PM on Sunday, December 1st, 2013
You need to realize that this has nothing, not one thing to do with you.
Not one thing!
Hard to swallow. You could be super woman. Doesn't matter.
You could be a mud hog like her,. Doesn't matter.
You have a child. Get to the attorney and protect her. He's paying bills today, he may not tomorrow. Do not let him derail your chance at independence. Pull up your Bitch Boots and get busy. You cannot love him out of this, so quit trying.
No one F***s with Mother Bear! Let that be your mantra! Tape it to the mirror and fridge!
In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.
Always, tell the other BS! Always!
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!
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