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Gently, you post often about OW.

What about your WH role in his affair?

Because I've come to terms with my H's role in the A.

He has done everything right for R: complete transparency, access to all emails with passwords, IC, MC, timeline, full disclosure, willingness to talk when ever I need or want to - I can deal with his side of the A, because he shows me daily that is not who he is.

I don't know if I'll ever come to terms with the sociopath whore who pursued, and continued to pursue even after being rejected several times, until she wore him down and he caved.

I don't know if I can ever come to terms with the double betrayal of my H and an OW who faked a friendship with me in order to feed her pursuit of my H.

I don't know if I'll ever come to terms with the fact that I encouraged him to take this job. If I hadn't, this never would have happened.

I don't know if I'll ever come to terms with the fact that her BH didn't have the balls to confront the EA when he saw it and recognised it, and didn't even have the balls to confront the PA.

I know that I can never come to terms with her boasting to a friend of a friend about her pursuit, her A with my H, and her ongoing efforts to derail our R by tormenting me.

Bitch seems too mild a description.

Oh my goodness Nest! Who has she been boasting to? How did you find out? That's awful!

Do you need to 'come to terms' with any of it though? The idea of coming to terms seems to imply a lot of dwelling and revisiting of old wounds.

Maybe draw a line in the sand and start from now with the most positive perspective you can muster?

ER

OW misjudged who she boasted to. Instead of a willing ear, she utterly repulsed her friend, who vented to her SIL who eventually told two of my best friends. OW is down one friend, I'm up with more people who know and support me... Karma's starting to kick her ass! Pass me the popcorn thanks ;-)

Well, when I posted this topic a couple of weeks ago, I hadn't stepped on the scales. Turns out I've lost 7kg - 15lbs - in three weeks. Happy to lose the weight, terrified at the cost to my health. My kidney failure is being held at bay, just, but my blood pressure is through the roof which is in turn causing further damage to my kidneys. I'm scared. The infidelity diet sucks.

It does indeed. Water and rest, and walks can help with the BP. I've been thinking a lot about you today. Sending you kindness and peace. Sending OW all the karma in the world for her continued, obvious deceitfulness. She will get what is coming to her.

JRazz