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This is truly awful and I'm so sorry you're going through this and that your WW dragged your daughter into it as well.

I know spying on her phone was wrong as well, it does show a complete lack of trust

You're only half right. It does show a lack of trust. Why? Because you don't trust her! And it's obvious you shouldn't. I felt badly for doing something similar but I realized that was just me trying to blame myself for something when I should be focused on the real transgression of trust. I saw very little communication between my WW and the OM; most of what I read was between my WW and various other people. I feel slightly badly about invading their privacy, but not my WW's.

Is it worth seeking professional help, for both of us?

Definitely! It might not save your marriage but it just may save your WW's life and save many people from the pain her suicide would create. You're going through all kinds of hell, too. Call today.

I know spying on her phone was wrong as well, it does show a complete lack of trust, and have since removed it.

I don't see it as wrong. She was lying and cheating on you. Of course you have a complete lack of trust and gathering evidence like you did was a natural consequence of it.

Hi. Sorry that you find yourself in this situation like the rest of us. I considered the phone "transparancy" thing, too. Insead, I went into Sprint online and was able to type in the phone numbers that my husband could give and receive texts from. He is very limited right now. Then as far as voice calls, I was able to block some numbers. I am still tempted to do what you did and then take all the Sprint limits off. I don't know.

It's almost impossible to trust again when you have been looked in the eye and lied to by the one person you trusted 100 percent. We are here for you.