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TheThreeYearFool (original poster member #41218) posted at 8:48 PM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
I think about the A all the time but I choose not to bring it up all the time. Today WH and I are emailing back and forth at work and keeping it light, like we used to do before DDay.
Like he used to do with the OW before DDay.
They're giving away slices of fancy pound cake at his work, and he's going on about how delicious this almond pound cake is.
And then my doormat mentality kicks in: "I should make a pound cake for WH! That would be nice! He might like that!" That's how I've thought for years.
I need to remind myself that I can't nice WH back into being a good husband. I tried nice and it wasn't enough.
Me - BW 36
Him - WH 41
Together 12 years, married 7
3 year LTA with former coworker
DDay 10/29/13
He says he wants to R... can I live with what he's done?
No12turn2 ( member #40996) posted at 8:59 PM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
Indeed. Nice guy mentality just seemed to foster this nasty side of my WW even more.
Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
littlefoggy ( member #41429) posted at 9:17 PM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
This is my first reaction, too.
But then I remember that WH hasn't done anything recently to deserve anything nice.
Edited for spelling
[This message edited by littlefoggy at 3:17 PM, December 12th (Thursday)]
Me: BW 30
WH 37
DDay 11/12/13
Divorcing
RealityStinks ( member #41457) posted at 9:22 PM on Thursday, December 12th, 2013
My first reaction too, and it didn't work.
Kicking her out didn't work either. Just saw pictures of them on Facebook at the same function yesterday, and I know that no one in the room has a clue what they're doing. That may change though. Let me her file for D because I told people. Being nice and keeping it more-or-less to myself is not working.
yestopants ( member #41631) posted at 12:38 AM on Friday, December 13th, 2013
I understand this reaction, it's what used to do before Dday. Its hard to stop thinking of them and doing nice things. They don't deserve it though…and obviously didn't appreciate it when they had it.
Me: 37
2 amazing kids DS, DD
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