I have always sort of thought there was more to the story. The continued contact after D-day was one sign and then OW's response to the final NC letter was another. Please let me know what you think...
D-day was July 23. At first WS just tried to avoid her. She sent him a message the day after D-day "Guess we are not talking today? I was bad yesterday, I apologize. Are you okay?" She also called him "babe" at some point. He wrote back that day "I'm okay, just been busy. I apologize too, it won't happen again."
For the next couple of days they didn't e-mail or message on facebook at all. Up until that point they did every day they worked all day long. On the 27th I asked him to send a NC letter after she e-mailed him asking what was wrong and stated he was acting weird. He replied, "Cl131716 saw the messages and wasn't too happy. Again I apologize and there were no intentions in any shape or form. I'm not acting weird. I'm just bothered she is upset about the convo and trying to mend that with her. It won't happen again. From now on nothing but work."
Of course they continued contact after that, however. She would ask how I was feeling (I was 8 months pregnant at the time) and he would respond. She also told him stuff going on with her daughter and he replied "sorry to hear that". She even asked for pics of our newborn son the day he was born (I was literally being stitched up) and he took some and sent them to her. This was before I found SI and really understood NC.
In September I began working at their place of employment cleaning the office on Sundays when everyone was off. The very first Sunday I worked she showed up (I was driving his car btw) and came strolling into the office. This was the first time I met her in person. She had no clue who I was. I went to the back and when I came out she strolled out of his office with a big grin on her face. She unplugged his computer as a prank. I was furious. Again WS sent her an e-mail stating I saw what she did and wasn't happy. Please keep it professional. She replied she was sorry, it was just a joke, and I needed to lighten up because she was not after him.
After that they didn't e-mail much. Every morning she would send a "good morning" e-mail and a few times he replied "morning" but nothing else. During this time she was still on his friend's list on facebook too. I asked for her to be removed shortly after D-day and he finally did it at the end of September.
In the middle of October I left for a couple of weeks because he was accusing me of cheating. He worked himself up so much one day he threw up. It was too much. I told him on Oct 30th I wanted a D, I was pissed at the time because he was refusing to watch the boys so I could look for a job. He had also started chatting with another woman on facebook (about our issues) and deleted me from his friends list because of something my sister said "she deserves someone better". On Oct 31st (our one year anniversary) I went over to talk to him. I asked to see his phone. He let me. I saw the messages with the friend on facebook, nothing bad but it still pissed me off because it seemed like he was already attempting to line up an replacement. He had also received this e-mail from OW.
"You know you can't even return a Email? We can't be friends on facebook either you deleted me. Wow. I am so sorry for whatever is going on . Or whatever I did which was talk OMG. Nothing more ever nothing did I do to get the cold shoulder from you."
He replied that we were separated and possibly getting a D. He also told her he thought I may have had other motives for leaving (another man) and told her to take care. Apparently they also spoke on the phone at some point. She sent an e-mail back saying she was glad he was okay and they could be friends.
The following Monday she sent another e-mail asking how his weekend was. At this point I had agreed to come back home so we could work on our M. He wrote her "that it was great, cl131716 came back and she is all I need. I don't need you as a friend. I don't need to discuss anything with you that is not work related."
She got pissed! She began going on about his change in attitude, how I must be reading this, and she didn't need him even for work anymore. She later sent us both this e-mail.
"So I am sending to both of ya'll.... Never did I want WS or have any fantasy of see him being with him.. EVER so cl131716 don't use me as an excuse to no be with him. Yes I am responsible for all I said but it was words. NO MEANING behind it. WS loves you very much VERY MUCH .... So stop worring about me there is nothing to worry about. Yes I have email him it was just saying Good Morning .. To not be RUDE because it is to email everybody else and leave him out of a Hello . Hoping everyone had a great day or weekend. No intensions behind damn.. I am pissed off my self for being accused of something I didn't do or thrown under the bus as an excape goat for something that was taken the wrong way. Never did we try to meet or talk on the phone or any of that. No texting no other messaging. So I don't know what Ws has told you but, was nothing but nothing. If I so wanted it to be more than that I would of kept trying.. But I didn't except for hello or how are you. So both of you have a great life and if I need to go to the boss I can and both of you Need to get a life together because, there was no reason to not ever.. WS you better tell her that I never wanted you never persued never called to chit chat. NEVER SO I HAVE NO IDEA WHY SHE HAS A PROBLEM WITH ME.... IT HAS BEEN MONTHS AND I HAVE NOT SAID SHIT... I AM PISSED OFF AND SICK OF HOW TODAY HAS BEEN.. THIS IS CRAZY I HAVE NEVER WANTED YOU EVER.. WOW SO IF YOU TOLD HER IT WAS NOTHING AND I TOLD HER IT WAS NOTHING IT WAS NOTHING GET ON WITH IT. DONT PUT IT ALL ON ME !!!! I HAVE NOT BUGGED THE HELL OUT OF YOU .. BOTH OF YALL CAN FUCK OFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I SHOULD OF JUST SAID THAT THIS MORNING DONT BE SO ERIGANT WITH YOUR SELF THAT YOU PUT YOUR SELF IN THIS SPOT.. YES I SAID STUFF BUT THAT WAS BULLSHIT NOTHING ELSE.. I HAVE ONE ASSHOLE I DONT NEED YOU OR ANYONE ELSE. THANK YOU HAVE A GREAT LIFE.."
I know she already lied in that e-mail. The part about them never messaging each other (a LIE they messaged over facebook) and WS even admitted they spoke over the phone a few times. Also, she didn't just send him a good morning e-mail she also sent e-mail asking why he wouldn't respond.
So that is all. Sorry about the novel. I asked him over and over why she blew up the way she did and if he was different with her than he led me to believe. He doesn't know and of course says he wasn't.
Just some side info: They no longer work together. WS got a new job. Even when they did work together it was not in the same office. She worked on a lot 45 minutes away from his. He did train her from April to May however and during that time they did work side by side (apparently she hung out in his office some and they sat in the common area and talked...this is new info). They did work alone a few days as well but I believe it was before they really got close.
[This message edited by cl131716 at 9:35 AM, December 17th (Tuesday)]