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I'm going to start doing those things again. I've lost touch with "that guy".

Well there is your New Years Resolution!

Enjoy finding yourself.

I look forward to hearing about the new Reality Stinks Version 2.0!

HM

About the bad guy thing, shortly after Dday #2, I met with WS's IC who was also our MC six years ago. He warned me, be prepared to be painted as the b*tch. And he was right. I guess that's just what waywards do. So let that part roll off your back. The people who know you, will know the truth. The people who believe her are not going to be in your life anyway.

Enjoy your holiday season and may we all find greater healing and blessings in the New Year!

I'm with you in the STBX is a narcissist. It sucks being married to someone that drains the life right out of you. When I asked him to leave and he left I felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. I enabled him for so long that I was literally carrying his crap around.

It will be amazing when you get YOU back! I know it will for me!

Wow. Our situations are nearly identical, except for the ages. Same tome together, same length of marriage, same attitude on the part of the wife.

I also don't think her parents ever cheated. But mine is also painting me as the bad guy to anyone who will listen.

Thanks for taking the time to tell your story of dealing with a completely unremorseful spouse. Often it seems that everyone at SI is in R, or their spouse is begging for another chance. Sorry you are in this situation, but it is good to not feel like the only guy who is dealing with a wife who considers him too worthless to feel any shame or remorse over cheating and walking out on.

Best of luck to you.

Best of luck to you too justjim.

I've CAUGHT my WW in several lies, and I've got GPS of her at his house/rental/house boat. Plus, an Inn confirmed he was registered there the same day I have GPS showing her there. But, she "didn't have an affair". Whatever.

The unremorsefulness makes all this a little more unbearable. It would be easier if she had died. That way, she wouldn't have made the choice to leave.

I made the mistake of answering the phone today when she called (first time in two weeks). All of this is still "my fault" because I told some people about her "talking to another man too much, and she refuses to stop". I did it at her birthday party after finding out (purely by chance) that she had been to dinner with the man after she swore to me she wasn't talking to him anymore. I'll admit that I was angry when I told people. But, no A, and I wouldn't have had anything to talk about.

Anyway, today she informed me that "I knew the consequences if I told anyone and that I did it anyway" and that "no one could say they love someone and treat them so badly". Nevermind that she's running around telling people that I kicked her out of the house because she "talked to another guy a little too much, and BH is jealous". The hypocrisy of some people knows no bounds.

She also informed me that she accepted a new job a few days ago (never asked me about it). The kicker is: he's on the board of directors for the organization. In all fairness, his term expires at the end of this year and she starts on January 2. It's not like he'll just disappear though. But, it still feels like another slap in the face.

I've had about all I can take. I'm too young to live like this.

I'm still knee-deep in this with no R, no S, and no D in sight,(which is ok because I'm still hoping to R!) so I can't speak from personal experience. However, my mil waited for two years, and one day, fil came home and said they were going to make it work. It did.