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((((Caregiver)))) My Mom had a measure for how important things are: If it isn't something that people will remember and talk about in 100 years, then it isn't worth worrying about and making yourself sick over. So don't stress about things you can't get done.

Taking care of you and healing are the most important things. You are lucky to have offers of help, so accept graciously. As others have said, you are Caregiver, now it's your turn to receive the care. We would all be there for you, too, if we were near enough. Good mojo and vibes being sent to you to replace the bad ones.

Cry and scream all you want to us. We're here for you. Hugs to you, too, ((Jessica))).

Big hugs for you my friend.

I'd be down for NGs JuJu shooing away ceremony.

Sending you healing vibes.

(((((((((((((CG))))))))))))))))

Good morning! I hope you feel better today. Happy Thursday!

And thanks everyone for the secondary hugs. I'm sorry that I semi threadjacked; it was not my intention. I feel a little better now that I got some of it out, so thank you.

Jessica, you did NOT jack my thread! Group hugs are even better. Thanks for checking on me this morning. I hope we both have a good day.

To all the over night (for me) juju chasing and healing vibes and energy, love and kindness- thank you!!!

I wish I had a nickel for every time I had been told I don't have to be Wonder Woman. And that THAT voice would drown out the one that says I am lazy and not up to par.

I am working today, so I will try to stay positive and careful and not over do. I will carry SI in my heart.

Caregiver9000, I so understand what you are going through.

Three years ago I was taking my son to his swimming lessons when I missed the bottom step on my stairs. I fell, twisted my right ankle, righted myself and broke my left leg. I ended up having to go into surgery to repair it and was off for quite a while. This happened right before Christmas and my ex and were trying to R at the time.

He worked out of the province so most of the time I was alone trying to take care of things, trying to Christmas shop and taking care of an 10 year old. It wasn't easy and it is so hard to be dependent on others.

So know you are heard, understood and hugged. It is frustrating but it will get better and will be stronger for it. In my case my broken leg lead to a new job so it worked out for the best. I hope it works out for you as well in the end.

Try not to be so hard on yourself and have a nice Christmas. (((hugs)))

[This message edited by ninebark at 6:18 AM, December 19th (Thursday)]

(((caregiver)))

Sendingyou some good vibes and letting you know that you can get through this.

((((((CG))))))))

There couldn't be a worse time of the year to be laid up. It's hard enough to avoid feelings of inadequacy and stress even when you are fully functioning!

I also wish I could magically appear at your doorstep to help out. I hate that one of my favorite peeps is hurting.

More hugs...

((((CG))))

(((((Caregiver9000)))))

Nothing worse than losing a wheel.

(((caregiver)))

Hang in there, and continue to eat the elephant one bite at a time.

AJ's MOM

((CG))

vent/whine away you've earned it. that's alot.

don't worry about presents. they are just things. celebrate christmas on 12/29 or something if you need to.

just focus on you. don't add stress. people understand!

((cg))! i feel ya, broke my left shoulder 3 weeks ago. yup, getting in n out of cars is a nightmare. i am also lefthanded, and i was supposed to start a new job 2 days after my fall. luckily they cant fire me even though i will be missing my first 6 weeks. sigh.I also know how u feel about that dang step. i get a little sick feeling when i go down mine also. good news is, we have people that care about us and are willing to show us their love, we just have to allow ourselves to accept and remember that it makes them happy...i can be stubborn also...hope u are better today, and don't over do it!

Big hug to you Care, you are such a caring person, I hope you can feel the care coming your way over the wire. I hope you are feeling better about everything soon.

((((Care))))

ninebark, I can imagine that fall and I grimace every time I read it!! I think stairs should be outlawed...

wb, you are one of my favorite peeps too! Thanks for the love.

Hang in there, and continue to eat the elephant one bite at a time.

Good advice.

welcome14, your wing, my wheel. I am also left handed, so if we did a two legged race type bonding, I could manage the left side if you can take up the right?? Misery loves company and all that, so thanks for chiming in.

To EVERYONE who took the time to hug, reassure, send care and good vibes, I really really feel the love. Thank you for the permission to whine, the validation that this does kinda suck, and that it will pass, and I will survive.

I am moved, and supported by the responses. This is one of those threads I want to print and carry around so I can read it any day I feel down.

I feel like my best friends have the most unusual names....

Thank you!!!!!!

excellent idea! we could almost be one whole person! glad u sound a little better today...one day at a time! (and i dont have to clean the house...lol)

Sending belated hugs ((((cg))))

DMW, hugs are never too late!!

thanks for sending them on.

Oh! Just saw this.

((((((((Care))))))))

My dd broke her leg years ago and she sounded just like you (yes you're an 8 th grader).

But really the panic and pain was the same - she said I helped her through it but all I did / said was the usual mama things. You know that routine, so tell it to yourself.

As far as gifts let this make you feel better. I. Have. Not. Started. Yet. And I have two ankles.

I get the dependent thing so try to think of it this way - being injured like this as a single working mom is a really big deal. And you are still a single working mom who is now severely - thank god temporarily - injured. So really, you are actually kicking one -legged ass which is twice as good as the usual.

Love ya!

(((caregiver9000)))

Get well soon...((((cg))))))