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spond (original poster member #41686) posted at 9:55 PM on Monday, January 13th, 2014
Well it has been a while since I have updated...
Last week I called the AP's SO and informed her of the affair. She left work and went home and confronted him immediately. He works a goofy shift so he was home at the time. I emailed her with what proof I still had left. AP talked with my WW @ work and told her that, "We shouldn't talk at all...even if it's work related." Which she had already texted him saying work only communication, but I guess his SO thought otherwise.
Which brings up another point.... NEVER EVER... destroy proof. Early on(Aug/Sept) when I learned of the EA/sexting, I deleted the text messages. So they weren't there when showing the proof to the AP's SO.
Before I thought I couldn't move on without one of them leaving the company they work at, but since the AP's SO know about it know, I think it will be possible.
MC was last week as well and another this week. I like this MC better then the one we had in Sept.
WW has been completely remorseful and honest lately. She has spent a lot of time trying to understand why she did it. She has plans on starting IC soon. She has also spent a lot of time on these forums as well and reading books on affairs and recovery. She owns her actions 110%.
Anyways... still hope.
BH(me) | fWW
2 Kids - Married 2002
D-Day TT & EA | D-Day #2 PA
Reconciling
Brandon808 ( member #35619) posted at 10:07 PM on Monday, January 13th, 2014
Before I thought I couldn't move on without one of them leaving the company they work at, but since the AP's SO know about it know, I think it will be possible.
Do NOT let your guard down just because the OM's BW knows. That is another scenario that has played out ad nauseum. Many A's have continued/escalated/restarted even after it has been outed to both BS.
"We shouldn't talk at all...even if it's work related." Which she had already texted him saying work only communication, but I guess his SO thought otherwise.
Ok, this bothers me. You are assuming his SO thought otherwise. Please make sure. It is possible your WW texted him the NC message but then spoke to him later and said "I had to send that." Please remember that she was the one who said, not once but twice, "I can't see you." instead of "I don't want to see you.".
Anyways... still hope.
I don't want you to stop hoping. Remember that all great teams hope to win, but they make that hope a reality by preparing against losing. Do not stop protecting yourself. Know the saying "Trust but verify"? Well you honestly should not even attempt trust at this point so all that is left is to verify. Always verify.
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