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lordhasaplan? (original poster member #30079) posted at 7:22 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
We all owe you a debt that could never be payed. As I sit here in the chaos of a home full of family I realize how far we have come. I wouldn't be here or sane today without this place. Peace be with all on SI! And especially MH and DS.
BS- Me (45)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R.Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
Going_Under ( member #11606) posted at 7:24 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
Amen to that. Have a wonderful and blessed Christmas, MH, DS & all who make SI such a safe and wonderful home. 
BS 44 (Me)
FWH 47
M 24 years
Three Children ages 22, 18, and 10
D-Day 08/10/2004, 7-Year LTA that ended 4 months before D-Day.
annb ( member #22386) posted at 7:50 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
We all owe you a debt that could never be payed
Amen.
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 8:03 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
Merry Christmas DS and MH. Our lives will never be the same because of the love and sacrifice you have given here. Bless you both.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
JustDone ( member #9742) posted at 8:16 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
And Thank You!
-JD
Madhatter
Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.
Gotmegood ( member #41407) posted at 8:19 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
I wish that I had thought to start this thread.
I can remember quite vividly the horrible, horrible beginning days when first learning that I was, unbelievably to me!, a BS. I somehow stumbled upon this site. I could not even sign on, my hands were shaking so hard.
But I did log in, and here I found the compassion and expertise I needed to put one foot in front of the other. What you have given back out of your own pain is so appreciated. By me, and all of us. Thank you so much for such a gift!
Me: faithful wife 62.
Him: WH 64 , prostitute 20 yr old
DDay: 8-13-2013
Status: boinging up and down like a yo-yo
Crushed1 ( member #6449) posted at 8:35 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
Truth LHAP!
Best wishes for a wonderful and blessed holiday season (((MH & DS)))! And to everyone here at SI!
~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 8:37 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
I truly do thank God that I found this place. And, while I don't wish being here on anyone, I also thank God for all of you here with me.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 8:45 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 9:43 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 10:09 PM on Tuesday, December 24th, 2013
I need to add my thanks, too. I have lots of IRL friends (some from SI) and family, but my huge SI family is always there for me, ready to listen and help like none other.
Thank you, DS and MH for that.
Merry Christmas and God Bless Us, EVERY ONE!!
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
Eudaimonia ( member #32445) posted at 5:11 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
MH & DS,
You guys have helped us all as individuals in unquantifiable amounts. If it were not for this site I would be in an awful place still, no doubt.
I could list a million different ways that you have helped me personally. But, the most important way that you've helped me is that in the most horrible, alienating, hopeless time of my life (that will probably span to some extent till the day I die) you have shown me that I am not alone. You have created a place for all of us to find each other and work through this together.
The two of you have truly made the world a better place. Thank you and Happy Holidays.
So long, and thanks for all the fish!
jjsr ( member #34353) posted at 5:45 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
I am very grateful to have found this site. I have come to learn that when infidelity happens, a lot of people who you thought were your friends, judge you, leave your life etc. I am thankful we don't judge here.
Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.
timeforchange ( member #27454) posted at 9:22 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
4 years ago Today I spent the worst Christmas of my life. 2 weeks later D Day came Along and a couple of days later I stumbled across SI.
Before confronting I came here and read and read. I sought advice and learnt from the old hands how to get my ducks in a row. Thanks to them I "aced" the confrontation and he left that night. THANK YOU
As the divorce dragged on I received support and advice (better than any my lawyer ever gave) on negotiating a great final agreement. THANK YOU
Along the way I have learnt so very much about relationships.
I dated too soon and regretted not listening to folk here. THANK YOU
And I remember clearly reading many of The wise words and advice. These helped me work out for the first time in my life what a healthy relationship should be like and that settling for anything less was a major mistake. Today I have been dating the kindest, most thoughtful, most respectful man for nearly a year and I love him very much. SI helped me to learn how to accept the love of a good man and how to look for red flags. THANK YOU
My mum died when I was a teenager and in many ways the advice of old timers here was like a mother's advice to her daughter. I will be forever grateful to SI and all those who works hard to make it this wonderful place.
Every week I talk to my 2 young sons about life and relationships explaining to them the things I have learnt here. Lessons I learnt the hard way. I want them to be emotionally intelligent. By passing on what I have learned over the last 4 years ... The ripple effect of SI will carry on impacting people and relationship for decades to come. THANK YOU
This site and it's impact on lives is priceless....THANK YOU
I wish you both a joyful and peaceful Christmas.
Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”
soveryweary ( member #32265) posted at 9:27 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
TO MH and DS, Merrry, Merry Christmas!!
And wishes for a fabulous 2014!
Divorced 1/3/14 after 31 years of marriage.
SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 2:09 AM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013
Merry Christmas! Many thanks for this safe haven and your wise words.
May your New Year be full of blessings.
Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 3:15 AM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013
Ditto ^^^^^^^everything above.
This place has been a lifesaver for me.
I am happy to tell you that thanks to you, WH is finally "getting it" & our R is going well. I think that thanks to you, a family is staying together, & healing.
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 4:26 AM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013
Love you guys! thank you for everything you do for us.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 4:26 AM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013
Love you so much I had to say it twice... 
[This message edited by FaithFool at 10:26 PM, December 25th (Wednesday)]
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
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