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heartbroken_kk (original poster member #22722) posted at 5:16 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
I'm an adult survivor of a dysfunctional catholic family that decided half way through my childhood to stop going to church.
I never much cared for church (as a social place) or religion as I was always a skeptic and just didn't believe. Christmas became a three week long period of begging and hinting and feeling hopelessly poor--all about gifts. I grew to hate it.
Now I've lived more than half my life as an atheist and I'm very happy that way. At some point we called a truce on gift giving and agreed to just get together for a meal. That was a huge relief.
Partly because of modest income, parly due to conscious choice, I live simply, making do without many things. I recently put 97% of my things in storage and moved into an RV which I have parked off the grid in a remote wooded place in the mountains. I landed a part time job in the mountains near here so although I'm less than an hour from the hub of Silicon Valley I rarely go there. It is lone-some, quiet, serene, and simple.
Today I am planning a mountain bike ride and expect to greet friends on the trail. I'm bringing the dog to run, and a turkey sandwich.
I don't have to go to STBXWHNPDPAFTG's mom's house and eat her awful food in her filthy house.
I'm alone (well I have my furbaby who is ready to rock and roll ears a flappin') on December 25th; I'm not giving or getting gifts, and I'm ok.
Peace on earth! 
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:31 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
I'd wish you peace, but it sounds like your soaking in it already. Enjoy your day with your furbaby.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
cayc ( member #21964) posted at 5:33 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
You have your own little slice of heaven - if you'll pardon the religious-based analogy lol. I think it sounds lovely. Have a great ride today!
Merry Christmas!
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 6:01 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
Sounds like an awesome day.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 6:03 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
Perfect! 
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 7:55 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2013
I had a similar upbringing, kk; then had the X's religion (and all the dysfunction that went along with his family.) I'm happy with the universe now.
No gifts here either; living somewhat simply (can't give up my yarn & fabric!) I'd love to take a hike, but it was 9 degrees this morning and I have to go into the lab to remove specimens from the incubator, so I'm just going to catch up on some paperwork, then come home & cook my duck (better than cooking my goose?) 
Enjoy your solitude, but don't become a hermit; you're too interesting and nice a person to do that!
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
Elektra ( member #13326) posted at 3:26 AM on Thursday, December 26th, 2013
Ride on kk! No need for Silicon Valley.......it is any thing but peaceful these days.
Divorced in 2010
Enjoying my freedom.
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