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Raven96 (original poster member #40298) posted at 1:37 PM on Monday, December 30th, 2013
WH can't take time off from his job between Christmas and New Year's. He still had two days to take (that I know of...heck, maybe he burned them with her, who knows), and now he is going to lose them. Anyway, yesterday was a bad day for us, and he made the comment that he would call in sick today if I wanted him to. This man has been at his job for 26 years and has called in sick MAYBE four or five times total.
So this morning I asked if he was calling in. He said he would if I wanted him to. He repeated this about 5 times before I just told him that he would feel guilty and be miserable all day, so he should just go in. He answered, "You know it has nothing to do with us if I go in...you know how I feel about calling in if I'm not really sick."
Wow! I so wish he had the same morals and values for our M that he does about his job. FWit!
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Marriage isn't a test, so why cheat?
steadfast1973 ( member #24719) posted at 2:09 PM on Monday, December 30th, 2013
True! My WH didn't get it when I was upset that he was willing to take off work to be with a person he considered a "warm fuck toy", but wouldn't for me... On my birthday.
Me- 42- BS Him- 38- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 multi EAs, likely PA, trickle truth, d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute Separated 1/2017
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah"
Raven96 (original poster member #40298) posted at 3:58 PM on Monday, December 30th, 2013
Oh, I am so sorry, Steadfast. That is unbelievable! I cannot believe how completely crappy our WSs become in an A. THAT'S the kind of person the wonderful AP brings out?!? I seriously will never understand.
I hope you went out and spent a lot of time and $$ on yourself for your birthday!!!
Marriage isn't a test, so why cheat?
steadfast1973 ( member #24719) posted at 4:11 PM on Monday, December 30th, 2013
He ended up taking me to a fancy dinner two nights later, and bought me some nice gifts. Since then, the universe forced him to take time off to spend with me, between snow emergencies and car troubles, he's been with me the majority of December! He's even started working from home most days. The whole plan was to go to dinner after my birthday, because it was a Thursday. But, my birthday was also the one month antiversary of dday... I really just needed him home. A big huge fight, then talk the next day, while snowed in, and he got it. Finally.
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Me- 42- BS Him- 38- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 multi EAs, likely PA, trickle truth, d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute Separated 1/2017
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah"
struggling16 ( member #33202) posted at 4:19 PM on Monday, December 30th, 2013
I'm so sorry you had to fight this battle. The oblivious cluelessness and selfish cruelty is mind-boggling, isn't it?
Sometimes I have to take a deep breath, step back and say, "Who is this a--hat I married, anyway?" 
Raven96 (original poster member #40298) posted at 4:47 PM on Monday, December 30th, 2013
I'm glad he got it, Steadfast, short of you hitting him over the head with a giant brick. 
Marriage isn't a test, so why cheat?
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