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Hells yeah! 2013 can kiss my ass!

2014 is gonna be the YEAR of ME! It's been a long time coming...

Dec 2012 was D-day and that trauma, that was rough -- I really did think I would die before 2013! There wasn't any change in 2013 except some good progress this Dec -- I told her it was time she pack her bags, that I had all I could take and canst take no more! I though and planned on leaving her many times, but I realized she caused this and so she wasn't going to run me off -- she would have to be one to leave. Anyway, progress was made this month and so I'm looking forward to 2014. Hard to imagine I can look forward, but I do. I just hope it wasn't all the time off for the holidays and being together so I do worry, like sure all do, that this not a calm is just the calm. Still, I do have hope for 2014. 2013, yea, it was a wash -- I'm not toasting 2013 for sure!

Wishing all the SI ers the very best for 2014. With sincere thanks for your help over the four weeks plus since d-day - I've needed you so much and you've been there every time.

There's a long road ahead I know, but knowing you're there helps so much.

Hope the New Year brings you all you wish for and deserve x

Damn straight. Even years tend to be better for me, so I'm really looking forward to flushing this year away!

Wow - great thread. I also just posted on FB how horrible 2013 was. Definitely the worst year of my life by far. I'm a grown man but I've shed more tears this year than one could count. I've lost the will to live at various points as well. Only my kids, family, loved ones and of course God have sustained me.

The affair started in March 2012, but I only gradually became aware of problems in my marriage. In late 2012 and early this year, I thought we were just drifting apart, and that things weren't that serious. But once I brought the issues out into the open with my WW, things deteriorated over a period of several months. They hit rock bottom in July. On July 18th my WW asked me to move out and said that I could have the kids two weekends out of three. I declined. A week later was DDay. My eyes were finally opened to the source of all of our problems. I finally knew why my WW didn't love me any more. It was almost more than I could bear.

Now, by the grace of God, we are in recovery. Our 16th anniversary was a few days ago on Dec. 27th. Things are still awkward but gradually improving - at the pace of drying paint or growing grass, mind you. The scars will remain until the day I die. It will never be the same. But perhaps we will rise again like a Phoenix from the ashes. Perhaps there will be love again in our marriage. I pray for a good 2014.

Amen to 2013, and a number of years before it for me. Here's hoping that 2014 will be better for some of us. Sad truth is, even if that's so there will always be a fresh crop of betrayals in the new year. My sincerest hopes that many will be blessed from God with comfort and peace in trial. And may we survivors stand ready to help those refugees

2013 was the absolute worst year of my life hands down. I am so glad it is over. Hope 2014 is a better year. Looking forward to better days.

I am about the same amount of time away from D-Day and agree that this has been the worst year of my life. 2013 can suck it.

I had DDay#2 on January 10 and lost my dad on January 21 last year. 2013 can suck a duck for all I care. 2011 and 2012 for that matter too, as that bitch touched those years too.

I'm with you - 2013 can absolutely curl up and die.

Worst year ever. Nowhere to go but up, though! That's the good news about rock bottom.

I agree with everyone - 2013 absolutely, positively, sucked. I don't know what's ahead in 2014, but it has to be better, doesn't it?