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As Catwoman said, you're opposing parties. You need to shift gears and start thinking of yourself that way. Imagine yourself in any other civil suit. If you were suing your neighbor because his dog bit you, are you going to be calling him up, making sure he has a good L? Same applies here.

Also the worst mistake you can make strategically is to call up WW and exchange "my lawyer said..". You don't know if she is even telling the truth (appeal to authority is XH's favorite fallacy), and secondly, if you tell her lawyer what yours said, she could easily go back to hers and pass along that info. That hampers your L a bit when s/he's negotiating with hers. As a side note, it waives priviledge. That may not even come up as an issue, but it's definitely not a habit you want to get into.

Thank you @roughroadahead

You guys are right. I'm done helping her. I talked to L, he set me straight and I have a plan.

Bottom line he thinks she's going to stall. And there's no reason we can't just serve and have the offer of mediation on the letter.

Thanks again!!!!

Did your lawyer have anything to say about visitation with OM (exCon, DV...) and your children?

@Freeme - yes, essentially nothing to do. He paid his debt to society, she wants him in her life. I can stop him from getting near me and my children if he harasses (and one attempt of contact could be enough).

There was one attempt of contact right after DDay (her requested gchat contact on a google acct I never use so I didn't notice until much later). But I denied it (of course) and never heard back. That's not enough. I tried to block him off Facebook but he had blocked me already (darn Facebook doesn't let you block someone who blocked you so now he can see all my public stuff which sometimes I post for work purposes). Whatever. I'll try again in a few months.

From what I understand she's ended it with him. Not that it matters anymore. I'm divorcing her cheating ass.

But definitely my lawyer is aware and I can provide a copy of the police report (L hasn't asked for it). If nothing else it will be useful in negotiations if she tries to gain the upper hand by accusing me of anything ("let's talk here in front of your L about what a good judge or character you are, STBXWW...").