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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 2:41 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
He doesn't know this girl at all.
Preach it sister.
Its OK to mourn even thought it is confusing to mourn what never was. I was pining for the man I thought I married long before DD. I was so unbelievably sad.
Post DD I told him I was sad that our M died a quiet death well before I found out he was fucking every willing whore he could find. He didn't understand this at all.
You're going to be OK, PL. More than OK.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
ItHappened2Me2 ( member #32503) posted at 2:58 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
But if I don't see him for what he is, then I will pine after someone who doesn't exist. I'll never move on. And I'll never understand what role I played in tolerating his bullshit so I don't repeat the pattern.
LOVE this ^^^^
The only thoughts you should be having about him should be in relationship to what you wrote above.
Do the work on you so that you can be whole and happy. And you are making great progress doing that!
BS - me (57 now); WS - him (57 now)
DD 21o, DS 17 yo
Married 25 years (together 27+/-)
DDay #1 - March 18, 2011
DD #2 (after 3 + month TT and false R -- the affair had gone underground) - June 28,2011
DD3: June 19, 2013
DIVORCED!!!! and doing well
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