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Sparkle0504 (original poster member #40379) posted at 8:12 AM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014
My IC starts this morning.
Trouble is, I don't even know where to start. Usually have my head screwed on and held high, but I have a feeling it's going to be a washout:(
On the bright side, I'm getting a blood test this morning - being jabbed with a needle will be far more enjoyable 
Me 52 (BS) Him 60 (EXSAWH)
DDay (too many to mention), but 1st 06/2011
I'm done. Separated.
Time is always right, to do right. (Dr Martin Luther King)
Lowlow ( member #38653) posted at 8:45 AM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014
Your IC will help you with the starting point.
Good luck with all your appointments today.
Me (BS) 41 Him (FWS) 42 at time of confession
Reconciling
Jesu ( member #36422) posted at 8:55 AM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014
I hated IC. Did me no good really. Waste if time and money.
Me: BSO 39
Her: WSO 29
Together: 9 years
Married?: No
Children?: No
OM: A friend of a friend
DD#1: June 18th 2012
Many more DD after TT
PA#1: 1 week in Nov/Dec 2010, which led to a long distance EA
R: ?
Sparkle0504 (original poster member #40379) posted at 10:59 AM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014
I think it will be good for me.
It was like sitting with a real life SI forum wrapped into one
Me 52 (BS) Him 60 (EXSAWH)
DDay (too many to mention), but 1st 06/2011
I'm done. Separated.
Time is always right, to do right. (Dr Martin Luther King)
LostSamurai ( member #41347) posted at 12:12 PM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014
My IC has been really helpful. Probably one of my best investments I ever made.
I am the wandering samurai, and I found my freedom...
Sparkle0504 (original poster member #40379) posted at 2:03 PM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014
We're quite lucky here - we get 6 sessions free on the NHS (although I have a feeling more than 6 will be needed!). The IC and I hit it off, she clearly has experience/expertise with addiction and it was really reassuring.
I had counselling a couple of years ago and it was extremely limited because at the time I had been led to believe that he'd only acted out the one time and the issues were, I thought, about me feeling in adequate, unloved, blah blah blah. Two years on, several OW on and a LOT of research on my part, it's a very different situation. Whilst my self esteem is pretty much back intact, I know I am grieving Big Time.
'Grief'. That's not a word you actually see/hear on SI much - but actually, it's pretty accurate 
Me 52 (BS) Him 60 (EXSAWH)
DDay (too many to mention), but 1st 06/2011
I'm done. Separated.
Time is always right, to do right. (Dr Martin Luther King)
brokendancer7 ( member #39911) posted at 2:21 PM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2014
My first three sessions of IC were an assessment of who and where I am in life right now. The therapist asked questions, and I answered, and answered, and answered. Felt a little psychologically naked by the time it was all over. I am getting a lot out of it, so far. I need to understand lifelong patterns and why I am still in this marriage. How can I have put up with this? What I learn is going to allow me to either move on as a stronger person, or (somehow) absorb what has happened and make a decision to stay in the marriage.
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