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This is an interesting thread…

I'm a "young" 43….I have 3 children, I don't want any more….my OLD search goes from 41-48, mainly because anyone younger may want children, and I don't want to be in that position. Also, I want someone who understands my cultural references….

I too get lots of messages from guys in their 50's…I'm actually chatting to a 51 yr old right now, purely because he appears young..but I think you need to view everyone as an individual and figure out what is best for you.

Just an add to this, my dad was widowed at 47, his wife is 12 years younger….he's now 67, and she is 55…he is now suffering from dementia….I know this is bad luck, but being with someone so much older can throw up extra issues. This is a chance for us to have a second chance at happiness…..just take your time

I once dated a guy who is about 20 years older than me. We got along very well. His friends were all around my age. We went on several dates and had no problems connecting and developing a relationship. However, the more often I saw him, the more I looked into the future, and I just couldn't imagine bringing him to family gatherings. Introducing him to my parents... becoming a family with my 2 sons... I just couldn't see it happening.

My BFF is dating a man 15 years older than her and for her it's not a huge issue. He doesn't look like he's 50 and he's very active and social. Plus she doesn't want children of her own (he's got teens from a previous marriage and they are enough for him). I think they are a great match.

I am very active and outgoing and have a lot of very social hobbies. The biggest problem when I was meeting older men was that they acted old. It would have been one thing to meet a guy at an event who liked the same activities as me. But I would get these messages from guys who were 55 (which seems ancient when you are 30 and your own father is not even 55) who may as well have been 75 because their ideas of fun mostly involved being on their couches. Yawn.

In my friend social circle, yes. I'm 35, and I frequently do things with people in their 60s and 70s. But, I met all of my older friends through running, so they are all very active and we have a lot in common.

But for dating, no. In real life, I've had several 50-somethings ask me out. I've also, on-line, had guys who weren't even 20, as well as guys in their 50s and 60s use this line on me.

One of my best friends is living with a guy who is about 25 years older than she is. It's strange to see them together, and she admits she's only with him for the money.

To me age is just a number..I am what they call a cougar...I didn't go after him, he came after me...It was very strange how we met...I gave him a jar of jam I made and he started texting after that...

We have been together for over a yr now..Two of his kids are grown and the others are close to being done in school...When we are together I don't see the age difference...Sometimes it seems I have more energy that he does...He has a few health issues and has told me I am probably healthy than him...But it works for us...

NO,,,I didn't meet him OLD..To me that was a joke...Meeting someone in person is totally different and online..

I'm not old enough to be his mama...

Some people probably don't like us being together, but that is their problem not mine...We laugh and have a wonderful time together...And that is a good thing...I have been told that I have never acted my age and maybe this proves it...

I think it depends more on where you are in life. My SO is 12 years older than me. I'm 53 and he is 65. At first I thought he was too old for me. But he isn't - he acts young, sometimes younger than me! My children are grown and I have grandchildren - all of whom love him.

And the future will be whatever it will be. We all know that things can change in an instant. So I am fully enjoying the time we have together right now. This is the best relationship I've ever had, including XWH who was only 2 years older than me.

NL