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Reconciliation :
A bit of progress : Laughing about compartimentalization

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 greengiant (original poster member #41196) posted at 12:32 AM on Monday, January 27th, 2014

Hello guy's,

My WW has FOO issues. She can't express her feelings, would fake that she is happy and compartmentalize everything. She's doing IC and working on herself.

Friday night, we had a long talk and it didn't end well. Throughout the day, Saturday, she was angry and was showing it. Actually, I was happy that she wasn't hiding her feelings. In the middle of the afternoon, I asked her why she was still angry. She looked at me and said "I'm still searching for a box to put my feelings". We looked at each other and just laughed about this for 2 minutes.

Thought I could share this with you, being able to laugh about some of those things is a sign of progress I think.

ME - BS - 35 (33 on dDay)
fWW - 35 (33 on dDay)
Married 10 years, together 17
3 kids: 8, 6 and 4
D-Day: September 30th, 2013
She had a 6 weeks A with a COW

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karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 12:53 AM on Monday, January 27th, 2014

Communication is always a good thing. It's great she was able to feel her anger and you were there to let her.

Just wait til you are able to joke about the A....the first time it happens it's like

Laughter helps so much...keep up with the good work!

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

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Sadjacey ( member #41655) posted at 1:02 AM on Monday, January 27th, 2014

Laughter is something that has been hard for me since DD. and he doesn't understand that things he says and intends to be light hearted sometimes hurt me.

Me: BS 61
WH: 61
Married 40 years
Together more than 40
Porn use known since 2005
DDay: 11.24.12 - found emails to prostitute,
Disclosure: TT for months. Still not sure whether I have it all.
DDay 2: 2.20 2013 phone, txt to same prostitute found

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