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There has been a change for us too. I was a sahm with small kids for a time and i think wh took for granted everything i did around the home with small kids in tow!

I tolerate a lot less these days in all aspects of our relationship and he will not take for granted what i do at home again.

Our kids are older now and are all at school. I work part time (4.5 hours a week over 3 days, very part time ) so i do take on the lions share of housework, which is fine, but he helps out a lot more at home than he used too.

WW used to do 80 per cent of cooking (her choice) and I used to do everything else -- from dishes, to car maintenance, to cleaning the washroom, laundry, cat's litter box, etc.

I felt that she got to do the "high-payoff stuff." When we had guests, people would always praise her cooking. I always praised it, too.

Now I do at least 40-50 per cent of the cooking and she's slowly starting to help with cleaning. She did the bathtub the other day. Didn't touch the toilet. Still an improvement that she's doing any cleaning.

FeelingSoMuch... Totally! My husband likes baking and I don't really but I do pretty much all of the cooking. Well every woman we know (mostly my mom, his mom etc.) was soooo impressed he made a pie or whatever when I was the one who made the entire rest of the stupid meal!

I would hear endlessly how lucky I was to have such a great husband and never once did I hear how lucky HE was to have me. It was very hurtful and damaging to my self esteem. He sees that now and stops people from complimenting only him.

Sigh...