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Itsgoingtobeok (original poster member #37664) posted at 4:03 PM on Friday, January 31st, 2014
My WS after years of A has still stuck to this premises. " I was lonely and needed attention " . It just drives me crazy because I want to hear . I was selfish and not caring about you and the children . Its like she gives her self a excuse not to take responsible for her actions .Does your WS do this ?
BS-(52)
WS-49
married 28 yrs
Kid's -2
A- several
DD- 12-10-12
Starting recovery
"I don't understand the world today I don't understand what she needs I gave her everything she threw it all away" tom petty
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 4:53 PM on Friday, January 31st, 2014
I'm less concerned with the 'why' than with what my W is doing to change. If your W is taking her insight and learning how to validate herself and not seek external validation, for example, she's making a good change.
Also, you may want a specific answer, but you're not her, and she's not you, which makes it likely she'll give a different answer than you would.
What changes has she making? Is she committed to further change?
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
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