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TrulySad ( member #39652) posted at 2:16 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
She has the right to know there were three people in her marriage. A VERY important fact, considering it was only supposed to be two.
And the two C's....idiots.
Me : no longer a BW or BGF. Starting over!
Them : in the past, where they can stay.
Stillstings ( member #36549) posted at 5:00 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Personally I always believe in telling. But that is me as a person and not a therapist. You, the client and what is best for you is what counts. If telling is what you need to heal, do it. If not or you're not ready, table the issue and focus on what else that needs to be sorted out.
It's not about who is bankrolling treatment but who is the one seeking help.
Love yourself. You're worth it. Face your self. You need to do it.
EasyDoesIt ( member #29514) posted at 5:04 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
YES! #1 to be tested for STDs. We have at least one member on this forum who contracted HIV from her supposedly monogamous partner.
It's a life or death matter, not a matter of convenience.
Screw that IC and find another one with a brain.
Anything less than full disclosure and total transparency is pure bullshit. WARNING! No emotional pollution allowed.
Take2 ( member #23890) posted at 5:08 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Why ruffle the feathers, and break up a happy family ?
Your IC thinks a "happy family" consist of one spouse cheating and the other living a lie...
Your IC is a moron!!
[This message edited by Take2 at 11:09 PM, February 10th (Monday)]
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?
devasted30 ( member #39439) posted at 11:39 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
To me there is nothing worse than living a lie. It is not authentic. That was one of the worst aspects of my FWH's betrayal, of trying to integrate my reality into what was really the reality. Realizing that I was living a lie for so many years is just so sad and such a waste of my life.
The feeling of stupidity and foolishness was overwhelming, that other people knew, and either thought I was stupid or pitied me. Humiliating.
My feelings exactly. Nicely put.
And remember Murphy is right. Nothing is so bad that it can't get worse!!!
justjim ( member #41150) posted at 11:47 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
If the family of my WW's OM had told me, their loved one would likely be alive today.
Tell your counselor to stick that in his f**cking pipe, and smoke it.
Follow your BRAIN.
Your HEART is stupid as shit.
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