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I so want to post this on my Facebook, the kids would see it is the only reason I haven't... Yet. So she should have left after her first affair but stayed 21 years because we would have great kids..??????

Wonderful and yet confusing quotes of the day from "Happy Valley"...

I should have left the first time I thought about leaving but then I wouldn't have my boys, they would never be born because you and I wouldn't of been together in the first place

omg, just omg ... I think my STBX has the same idea .. 23 years and I really think it was just because he wanted kids. wtf? seriously f*cked up!

(((brokenfyrman)))

Things she's said:

OM cares about us (me and WW) and wants us to work out. He's very sorry about all of this.

Heard that a couple of times. Was that before or after they spent the afternoon at an Inn together?

I'm sorry, I never meant to hurt you.

Actions speak louder than words.

[This message edited by RealityStinks at 2:19 PM, February 10th (Monday)]

OW and I were worried about you.

So glad I could bring them together.

I'm sorry. She's a bitch. My XWH has sent me similar doozies.

"OW really cares about our children and wants what's best for them".

I guess what was best for them was blowing up their family.

[This message edited by newlysingle at 2:52 PM, February 10th (Monday)]

"OW misses your hugs"

That was a really long time ago. I think I told X that she can go fuck herself or something along those lines

I love you

I am sorry

I promise

All have eight letter in them

Then again... So does..

Bullshit

My all time dumb things my STBXWH says about affairs:

'It was not my intent to hurt you'

Oh so this was to make me feel special, secure, happy??

And the worst...

"I chose you not them"

Wow I'm the winner! I got the cheating lying selfish scum, I feel so lucky.

I was told that xpos is borderline npd. When I read these, I think *more* than just borderline.

So add to my original post a huge fight about splitting the tax bill for our sons vehicle that she misplaced on her desk that cost an extra unexpected $100 today that I just had to cover and quite a few extra attempts to demoralize me, put me down, trying to take jabs at my manhood and a snide comment about me being a Marine,

Oh c'mon fyrman you are a fighting machine a wonderfully trained Marine

Yet constantly posts how big a military supporter she is.. She supports some alright dropping panties for her Army boyfriend.. Whatever

Anyway I got a message later in the evening about "can't we maybe meet and talk" not for us but "for the boys". The oldest told her today that his brother was pissed that she hadn't seen him in three weeks even after surgery. Now she wants to take me up on the offer I gave her before surgery to "stop by and see him"... "Being away from them is the hardest thing I have ever done and I can't stand it" WTF???!?!!! She hasn't made any attempt to come get him nothing, always have to work around her schedule which really makes him hot. She got a shot of the truth from one of the boys and it shocked the hell out of her that I haven't been lying. She on then other hand lies with every syllable that passes her lips. I bet I have said some sort of the word lie 50 times today to all the bullshit she has thrown. I told her she had a black heart at some point.. "I don't have a black heart, I have a big heart.." Oh well my answer to her requests....

A resounding NO!!! I don't want to see you, look at you, talk to you... nothing.... Leave me alone. Jesus will January ever get here?

DD#2 I checked her underground cell phone and found a message from one of her many OM's. It was a masturbation video, with a text "good morning beautiful." When I confronted her she told me he must of sent it to her by mistake. Of course then I had to ask her why did you reply "I am so glad I do that for You."

Pathetic, I knew it was over and filed for D.

BSB

A few of my favorites from my stbxw:

My infidelity only occurred within the last 3 months. The rest of our 11 years I was unwavering faithful.

Gee, thanks. So, you mostly didn't cheat on me. I NEVER strayed.

It [the A] didn't mean anything and its over. I'm not leaving to be with anyone. I just have this overwhelming need to be alone.

Again, that's supposed to make me feel better? You want to be alone, so you cheat on me just to hurt me further or what?

I really hope some day we can talk again regularly. This isn't goodbye, just goodbye for now

My interpretation: "There's a big part of me that knows I'm going to regret this, so I hope you'll still be around just in case."

Heh, don't count on it.

Her: "I still think that even after the divorce we will get back together."

Me: "Yeah, well, I gotta tell you--it's not going to happen. I am moving on."

Her: (Bursts into tears, stands up and stalks out) "Then I am moving on too!!!"

Uh, YOU ALREADY MOVED ON; THAT'S WHY I'M FUCKING DIVORCING YOU, IDIOT!

lol Abbondad - love that .. um ... yeah!!!

Some of the things on this thread are sooo sad ... they are such misguided poor pathetic excuses of humanity ... but seriously? They think there might be a chance for R?? Really ... try being remorseful, try being honest, try being real, try to remember you said vows ... ugh

Her: "I still think that even after the divorce we will get back together."

Translation - You'll let me use you after we D for favors and ego kibbles, right?

WH told me today he wants to be separated. He says to me:

"I don't want to be your love slave anymore!"

I almost laughed in his face.

From a NPD this just means it was an effort to be nice and "ACTING" loving I guess.

Oh my god Soulhurt I heard two of those recently..

There's no one else I just need to be alone and maybe we could go somewhere to sit down and talk, not now but soon. WTF????!!!!!????

Anyway new nugget for this, I sent her an email with the copy of a bill I had to pay that she ignored from February of last year and I got no response. Later I asked if she got it and here is her response...

Oh I don't use that email anymore, the old computer has access to it so I created a new one

.

I immediately responded.. So this is that secret email I asked if you had weeks ago huh? And when were you going to tell me since I have to send you copies of bills/receipts???

Oh no I just made this one because the old computer had my email on it and it's my email none of your business.

RIIIGHT!!! Because changing your password wouldn't prevent the old email from logging on???? I'm not an idiot, I wasn't born yesterday. Truth always has a way of seeping out from the darkness doesn't it? I told her weeks ago my gut said that there was a secret email and someone else, ruby44 posted that she felt so too based on one of my posts before I put it on here. Next up admission that she has seen OM#2 or was involved with triathlon Timmy or another old boyfriend from back home OR someone here local... I hate a damn liar

My two favorites out of the hundreds of nonsensical things my XW said during her A. Keep in mind we were just out of D-day.

Its none of your business who I date

Well it kind of is, as your my W.

When asked if she had any sort of guilt for what she had done to the OM family:

The condition of his M is none of my concern, I had nothing to do with that.

Well you dumb Bitch you do because your fucking her H and those children's father.

I filed for divorce.

I filed for and was granted an RO shortly afterward.

He convinces OW#544 and even said in front of a judge at the RO hearing that *I* "can't get over him and want him back" what type of f'ed up crap is that? UM NO WAY! NOT IN A MILLION YEARS!!

He is the stuff nightmares are made of.

If he were the last man on earth I would go join the other team he's so disgusting!

Right after divorce he said he didn't want to end the marriage because he "would feel bad" yet had no qualms about cheating with other women? Yeah like that makes a whole lot of sense.

My idiot ex said "I don't deserve to be treated like this" and he doesn't understand why everyone is getting on his case for his behaviour, his lies, betrayal, etc. So he quit his job - very wise move - he is illegally in this country. He has also said "why is everyone so one-sided?" Actually, he has uttered a lot of gems like this, I could write a book.