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iwillNOT (original poster member #40605) posted at 9:27 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
OK, I am venting, and if you believe in the Twin Flame stuff, you'll be offended. Fair warning.
Lately I have seen posts on here from BS's discussing how their WS, or the AP, is all about how they and the other person are " Twin Flames." Therefore it is OK that they are cheating, they are meant to be together, two parts of the same soul, blah blah bullcrap.
When I read this stuff I just want to reach through the screen and smack these deluded cheating idiots. I feel so much for their Betrayed partners. If your WS justifies their A due to marital dissatisfaction, then at least there may be something there based in reality( though nothing justifies an A, I know for myself and many others here, the marriage pre- A was not optimum.) I guess any reason to cheat will do, for them, but - to blame and justify an affair with this kind of imaginary story is just - aargh - how do you even process that? It's in the same realm as "the neighbors dog told me to do it" or "Tom Brokaw commanded me through the TV screen to cheat."
I think that any BS receiving this justification should see it as absolute confirmation that there was nothing wrong related to them or the marriage, pre-A, so the WS has to simply imagine a " reason".
OK, vent over.
Me: BS, 46
Him: WH, 47
Together 24 years
4 amazing kids
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Choosing myself daily and R almost every
Vulcanized ( member #33523) posted at 9:32 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long
Now:-----> Everything is as it should be
iwillNOT (original poster member #40605) posted at 9:34 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
Word to this^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Me: BS, 46
Him: WH, 47
Together 24 years
4 amazing kids
Dday#1 2004, 3 years after EA/PA co-worker MOW
Dday#2 8-6-13, 13 months EA/9months PA with co-worker MOW - caught not confessed
Choosing myself daily and R almost every
LostSamurai ( member #41347) posted at 9:35 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
Twin Flame - is that like SOUL MATE?
I am the wandering samurai, and I found my freedom...
Holly-Isis ( member #13447) posted at 9:36 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
I think that if there truly was such a thing as twin flames, you wouldn't ever have been drawn to someone else (such as your BS) because your "soul" would know the flame was out there, waiting for you. Otherwise, why even bother ever getting M? You would never know if the person you're with is your twin flame.
And funny that the twin flames are always conveniently near. They're never slaving away in some field in China or a factory in India. 
If this twin flame thing was real...the only burning would happen would be between the two of you. You wouldn't cause third degree burns to the people around you. 
"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*
lostinthesouth ( member #41377) posted at 9:37 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
@Vulcanized
Agreed 1000000% lol 
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 9:46 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
I have a snuffer for that.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 10:04 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
Yeah, I'm in the "only 14 year olds and idiots buy into 'twin flames'" camp.
The "last" OW was told---by way of seduction, I think (because Trac-Fone is so effing romantic, and she very much liked foreplay that involved trashing me)--that I was "never 'The One.'"
Both he and OW are emotionally stunted somewhere in middle school. Seriously.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
steadfast1973 ( member #24719) posted at 10:11 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
My divorce -from my "SOULMATE"- disproved that whole pile of shenanigans...
The EAP tried to play that shit, too. the whole "star crossed soulmate". Nah, Bitch, you're just a psycho who can't let go... 
Me- 42- BS Him- 38- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 multi EAs, likely PA, trickle truth, d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute Separated 1/2017
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah"
jb3199 ( member #27673) posted at 10:52 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
You know that they are peddling this shit when they have to give it a *deep* name----TWIN FLAME.
Sounds like a product sold on an infomercial.
BH-50s
WW-50s
2 boys
Married over 30yrs.
All work and no play has just cost me my wife--Gary PuckettD-Day(s): EnoughAccepting that I can/may end this marriage 7/2/14
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 11:24 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
Do people really say this stuff out loud? I am seriously asking this question. Do people really, truly say shit like this to their spouse?
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Justgreatnews ( member #41666) posted at 11:32 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
I thought nothing would ever sound as hokey and sissy as "soul mate", but "twin flame" manages to top it.
Melian40 ( member #41205) posted at 11:46 PM on Monday, February 10th, 2014
These people don't observe what is going on around them. See these couples who come from affairs and then their bubble bursts and realize that it's worse than what they had in their marriages?
These people change partner to feel happy, but they don't change themselves. You know the rest.
BW-me:41
BH-him:42
DD-age 10
Together 7 years, married 17 years
DD1:8/12/2013 -OW1-PA 1.5 months in 2009
DD2:8/17/2013 - OW2-EA Spring 2013- He tried to hit on her but she denied.
"You can't fix a broken man, but he can break you"
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 1:16 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
This is just the latest fad for WS in the newly revised and updated "Cheaters Handbook". Replacing star crossed lovers, soulmates, soulmate shmoopies, it is now Twin Flames. 
truly believed that a "Twin Flame" existed, then either they are a 14 year old girl or a total fucking moron.
I just got a picture of some 36 year old WH writing notes to his "Twin Flame" in a "Hello Kitty" notebook.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
CantLoseHope ( member #42356) posted at 1:25 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
sister milkshake! I second that! What are these people in middle school? Utter bullcrap, these people saying they are "twin flames" are in THE FOG big time!
"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"
Ascendant ( member #38303) posted at 1:27 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
CantLoseHope ( member #42356) posted at 1:29 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
ERMAHGERD FACEPUNCHED thank you for literally making me laugh out loud!!!!!
Just also wanted to add a little something as well...... this is the same mentality where people think its supposed to be "easy" all sunshine and rainbows, etc..... its just delusional!
"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"
DixieD ( member #33457) posted at 1:31 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Facepunched as soon as I read the title, that's the image I had in my head.
I'd never heard of this till SI. I agree with Vulcanized. But even as a 14 year old girl I would have laughed at the immaturity level of such crap.
[This message edited by DixieD at 7:32 PM, February 10th (Monday)]
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 1:32 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
.. 
..more like TWIN FARTS...
..smy
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
CantLoseHope ( member #42356) posted at 1:33 AM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2014
Also, those of you who really want to laugh out lout.... take a look at this.....
http://consciouslifenews.com/ive-found-twin-flame/#
and pay special attention to number 10.......
WOW!
"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"
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