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sparkle09 (original poster member #41901) posted at 2:57 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014
WH is reading how to help you spouse heal from an affair and I think it's sinking in!!! Up until today I've gotten defensiveness, anger, and frustration. Today was a roller coaster for me to say the least...I Told him I hated him & this marriage will not survive because he is a POS!! I woke up angry made him leave the house then he gets back and I'm a crying wreck!! Then I'm angry again take off for 3 hours come back still raging and crying saying horrible things to him the entire time. He kept his cool listened apologized over snd over, and wrote me a 3 page letter ab how sorry he was and he hates himself for hurting me and he can't live without me. We had an open conversation ab affair and he answered all of my questions. Today had been so bad for me but I'm happy to say WH is getting it finally! 
Me-33 WS-34
Pregnant & 2 year old sweet baby girl
Together 15 years Married 5 years
D-day #1 - 12/25/13 TT D-day #2 - 1/3/13 admitted to 3 year affair with co worker
AML04 ( member #39682) posted at 2:59 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014
Sorry you had such a shit day but woohoo for him starting to get it!!
Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R
sad81712 ( member #37418) posted at 5:18 AM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014
[This message edited by sad81712 at 12:06 AM, February 18th (Tuesday)]
"Pain is mandatory for all of us. It's what teaches us. Suffering is what's optional. That's what happens when we try to skip over the pain."-Glennon Doyle Melton
BW(me)-52 WH-51
Married 25yrs
DD & DS
D-day 8-2012
spond ( member #41686) posted at 12:32 PM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014
That is great news sparkle!!!
BH(me) | fWW
2 Kids - Married 2002
D-Day TT & EA | D-Day #2 PA
Reconciling
veronique12 ( member #42185) posted at 3:46 PM on Tuesday, February 18th, 2014
That book had a very similar effect on my H a few weeks ago. It's nice to see those little signs of encouragement. He just needs to keep them up for the rest of your life, right?! Ha! But seriously, glad to hear that he is on the path to helping you heal.
BW, D-Day: 11/29/13 (4 month EA discovered); 12/19/13 (discovered was also PA); TT thru 2/14
Married: 2001; Together for 20 years
2 beautiful young kids
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