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WhatsRight (original poster member #35417) posted at 1:50 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
Child is going into rehab.
Husband wants to give up on family - his words.
Elderly parent going downhill fast.
Trying not to lose my mind.
Just asking for prayers and/or good thoughts.
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 2:08 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
((((WhatsRight)))) I am so sorry. That is a very full plate and seems you are the one who is always carrying it and trying to balance it.
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
refuz2bavictim ( member #27176) posted at 2:11 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
((WhatsRight))
I am sending you prayers for strength, peace and comfort.
scarednbroken ( member #41961) posted at 4:32 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
BS: Me 47 WH: 54 Kids: 17, 19, 21, 32 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for
blakesteele ( member #38044) posted at 4:36 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
(((Whatsright)))))
Specific prayer for you. And one for your family .
God be with us all.
ME: 42 BH, I don't PM female members
SHE: 38 EA
Married: 15 years
Together: 17 years
D/Day 9-10-12
NC: 10-25-12
NC: Broken early November 2012, OM not respond
2 girls; 7 and 10
Fear is payments on debts you have not yet incurred.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 6:31 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
((((WhatsRight)))) Sending you strength, honey.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Must Survive ( member #34533) posted at 6:36 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
WhatsRight,
(((hugs))).
I have been where you are. You must prioritize.
Do everything rehab suggests. Your child is #1 in this situation. This is life or death issues.
Spend time when available with elderly parent. If they are ok mentally, explain that you have to focus on child, but you love them.
FTG as for you husband. He wants to quit, let him. It takes STRONG people to go through what you are and if he is not strong enough, then he is just sucking your power right now.
And in your spare time take care of yourself.
Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorced-Let my new beginning start
They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen
Allornothing ( member #42354) posted at 6:52 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
(((WhatsRight))) sending prayers and strength your way
Me- BS 44
Him- FWH 44
Married 20 years, Together 27
Kids- 24,23,16,15
D Day- 7 Sept 2013
OW- Irrelevant
Kelany ( member #34755) posted at 6:55 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12
Former 80s Icon wishful thinking
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 7:00 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
(((WhatsRight)))
Sending prayers and good thoughts.
OutoftheDeep ( member #42601) posted at 7:04 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
((((What'sRight)))
My child was struggling with drug addiction also while my WS was going to strip clubs and having a possible EA with his co-worker. I know, it's totally hell. BTW he is better, no thanks to dh.
Come on God, we all need you around here!! Prayers to you from the bottom of my heart Whatsright. I am not a religious woman, but God helped me and he will help you too.
((((to your child What's Right))) Bless his or her heart.
Me - BW 40s
He - exWH 40s
2/15 Over. I had enough. I don't care anymore, and it feels awesome. He can have all the strippers, coworkers, and exes he wants now. Except now he doesn't think they're so appealing. Oh well.
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 7:09 PM on Saturday, March 8th, 2014
(((WhatsRight)))
Prayers said for you. Just do what you can and take care of yourself as well. There is only one of you. People will just have to deal with it. Child is #1, as someone else said.
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
WhatsRight (original poster member #35417) posted at 1:05 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014
Thanks so much for all the responses.
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
LivinginLimbo ( member #35004) posted at 1:15 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014
BS - 65
WH - 63
Married 37 years
D-Day 2/12/12
D-Day 6/1/16 Caught him back online early enough that no physical contact took place but still devastating. This sucks.
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 1:25 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Uhtred ( member #40392) posted at 3:01 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014
Sending all my might and positive thoughts your way.
Me: BH 38years old DDay 4-29-13Her: FWW 39
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 5:52 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 6:13 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014
Sending prayers and positive thoughts your way.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 10:58 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014
Count me in.
(((WhatsRight)))
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Lola88 ( member #41540) posted at 2:07 AM on Monday, March 10th, 2014
You're in my thoughts and prayers xx
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