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Ok, so long story short, our friends J and A divorced. they have a child L who is still in diapers.

A is off her rocker and was cheating on J, they divorced and she tried to leave with L to the other side of the country with her new husband.

Well... in the documents, A was going to retain custodial custody after completing all the therapy and classes and stuff. She has, and wants to move to the other state....so she filed in court. J has blocked it.

Now, I have known L since L was 6 months old. L's a shy baby and not one to easily trust. L is now 3 and loves it our house. L plays with our kids very well and I have baby sat a few times.

About 2 weeks ago though, after an extremely poopy diaper, L refused to let me wipe the area. I mean, scratched, kicked, and ran with poop still there. I tried to shower L off, but at this point L was in hysterics and I really felt like I may be doing more harm then good and waited for J to pick her up. Telling him what happened. J said that it is a new development (very new considering she's never done it for me before) and that A also experiences this.

NOW though, that A has been blocked from going to the other state, A has called CPS saying that L said that J touched her. (first of all, L does not talk all that much, and second L is in the mimic stage.) Now, J can't see L without supervision and chances are now good that A will get full custody, J maybe charged with something, and L will be in another state with nobody familiar.

I asked L when I was changing the diaper if anyone touched. L agreed with everyone that I asked....I asked if J did, she said yes. I asked if A did, she said yes. I asked if DH (who has NEVER changed her diaper) she said yes.

I know J, and there is no way. DH manages sex offenders and he said there's no way.

So now, I told J I would be willing to give my statement of what happened when I changed her. But I am not sure how that works. Will I have to be interviewed by both lawyers? Will I just have to talk to CPS?

There is no love loss between A and us, but if I even for one second thought that J was messing with L, I would never support him. J has been a great father, has A almost all the time, and is over at our house 1-3 times a week.

Anyone else had to go through anything like that?

Crisis somewhat averted.

not that it was a good avert. When L was in A's care, she thought L may have a UTI. So A took L to the hospital ER, where L promptly spilled out the collected pee.

Either unwilling to wait, or completely unaware of the trama of what a cathater may do - they cathed L in the ER.

L never mentioned this to J. Never thought it could possibly be the reason that little L wouldn't want anyone down there after that.

After hearing this horseshit, it took ever ounce of love for my children and life not to walk the 7 houses to A's house and just beat the shit out of her.

What an asshole!

((((poor baby L))))

What an asshole!

Yes she is!! A has NO FRIGGEN CLUE! none. This is the same 'woman' who said that she would rip her own shirt and stuff, then call the cops and say that he did it to her.

J left pretty much that night and that was that.

I know that she was just using this situation to her advantage, i hope the Karma bus runs her the fuck over.

((((poor baby L))))

No only that but prayers. I pray for this little girl all the time. She's a total sweetheart and her childhood is going to be full of crap like this. J tries to take the high road and be nice, he tries to co-parent and be flexable, but after this...that's pretty much going to stop.

what a fucking bitch!!!!! I feel for baby L and for J.

Praying for L she'll need them with her mother.

Hugs,

K

YEAH!! L is back home with J!!

The other state and our state have dropped the investigation since she finally fessed up.

No word on any backlash with her, but J picked up L last night.

I hope that we can do a play date soon, it would be nice for her to have alittle normal after all this crazy.

Yeah.....so A 'lost' L yesterday.

Apparently she stepped out of the room and L just opened the front door and walked out. They found L on a swingset at a church a street away.

Just....i don't even know.

I applaud A for running down to our house to see if she was there. I want to just shake her though. She knows L can open doors, she knows L loves to be outside.

The kicker....she didnt tell J until like 20 minutes later. /smh