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The week after DDay I left my EX sitting in a coffee shop with my kids. Just said I'll call you when I need to picked up. Walked out with him dumbfounded across the street to a salon and got a cut and color...I AM a hairstylist! I don't even remember what salon I walked into but happened that I knew the stylist from church a few years back and told her I trusted her, do whatever and blasted EX for 2 hours. Very therapeutic. Don't go crazy- but if there's a color or style you've been eyeballing- go for it! Let your stylist give their professional opinions (we love getting people in our chair that say "do what you want and make me beautiful!")

I have 2 tattoos... both I spend a good 3 years thinking about style/art, placement, etc...be sure you KNOW its right. No rash decisions with permanent stuff. Hair grows... makeup washes off... ink, not so much.

Good luck and do something for YOU right now.

Got my hair cut and dyed it red.

Still no matter how I wanted to change myself, it still hurts.

I had already decided to lose the weight I needed 'for good' before d-day, so I just continued the plan. By the time we D, I was looking pretty good The X told me it was all he could do to not grab my ass when we were walking out of the lawyer's office. I told him if he had, he would have lost his arm.

I lost weight with the infidelity diet, too--a catalyst for the rest I've lost since those first couple months. I'm now back to what I was back in high school. Other than that, I've not changed much outside, but I've changed a ton inside. I've become selfish--in a good way. If I need my hair cut more often than every 18 months, I do it. If I'm sitting home, worried (because my SLAWH travels a lot), I grab my kids and go to a movie (NEVER spent money on movies before) or a treat. If I start to feel like a hermit, I go to lunch with a friend (again, SELDOM would have done that pre-A). I've also started going weekly to S-ANON meetings, standing up for myself to my WH and children, bosses, etc. I feel good. Not completely transformed, but working on it still. :)

My hair is bleach blonde, I have nails and a whole new wardrobe, but mostly I have completely de-WHed my house. It's a good thing.

Hair grows back. I'd go for the hair cut. And clothes. New clothes help. My current clothes are falling to rags. I sometimes wonder if it gets so bad so slow that we end up neglecting ourselves and our wardrobe....Best of luck!

..soon after D-day#1 , at 40 years of age, I had surgery on my ears... that I had always though stuck out too much..

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..to me, they looked like this...

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smy

[This message edited by somanyyears at 11:59 AM, March 12th (Wednesday)]