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Williesmom (original poster member #22870) posted at 7:33 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Thanks everyone for the good thoughts.
I did the best thing that I could for myself. Dairy Queen blizzard.
The corgis are an interesting thought. One of the dogs is very protective of me. He sleeps right beside me every night. Unfortunately, I had put him in his crate because I'm afraid that he would bite- he's a bit unpredictable.
I've been beating myself up about that also.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 7:41 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this, WM.
{{{hugs}}}
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
lost_in_toronto ( member #25395) posted at 7:59 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
(((Williesmom)))
I am so sorry.
Me: BS/48
Him: WS/46
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 23 years.
Reconciled.
monarchwings ( member #39891) posted at 8:05 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
I am so sorry this happened to you. I am feeling so shocked and scared for you. I do hope you find the courage to report him. This guy needs to be exposed for the POS that he is. I am glad you were able to at least post here so we can offer you support.
PhoenixRisen ( member #35912) posted at 8:36 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
(((WM))))
Please report this.
Even if you aren't sure about what was right or wrong let the police handle that judgement call (just like if you suspect child abuse - you report it and let the authorities handle the decision as to what is and is not abuse).
Please report this.
I helped a classmate report a sexual assault when we were freshman in college. What had happened to her was milder than your assault, and she just wanted to forget it, but I wanted to empower her and for the man to be on record because he was wrong to do anything against her will. The school police were so appreciative she came in because HE HAD DONE IT BEFORE and the women all retracted their stories. The police had been trying to get this guy but didn't have enough evidence nor a victim that would file formal charges so they knew he was a predator but couldn't do anything! Two days later I pulled into the parking lot to see him getting handcuffed!
Think of the other women you can save by reporting this. He has probably already started to target another woman online. Maybe it's one of us from SI.
Please report this.
gypsybird87 ( member #39193) posted at 8:51 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
OMG. I just read this entire thread.
(((((((williesmom)))))))
I am so sorry this happened to you!! You've already received excellent advice here, but I wanted to add my hugs and support.
So very sorry... You didn't deserve this. NO WOMAN DOES. I do hope you take action against this predator.
Sending strength and lots of hugs!!!
Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem
Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords
MyVoice ( member #35695) posted at 9:45 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown
suckstobeme ( member #30853) posted at 9:49 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Holy shit. I'm stunned and so sorry that this disgusting POS monster found you.
I have no other advice than what has already been given. Please take care of yourself, be safe, and lean on everyone you can IRL. This guy deserves to burn in hell.
BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 10:11 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
I've been beating myself up about that also.
WM, please stop it. Just banish the thought - this is NOT your fault.
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 10:12 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
locking at Williesmoms request. We can open it back up when she isn't feeling so overwhelmed if she'd like.
[This message edited by SI Staff at 4:12 PM, March 16th (Sunday)]
Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.
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